So you think you know everything there's to know about sex? Well, you couldn't be more wrong! Various studies and research carried out across the globe reveal many interesting facts about lovemaking and sex, most of which you'll find educational as well as highly surprising.
For instance, did you know that it is actually possible for men to break their penis while having sex? No kidding! Although the male member does not have any bones, it can still break and get fractured if the man is too rough during sex. Such an injury is more common in younger males than older ones (for obvious reasons). This injury can be extremely painful and take a long time to heal.
Here's another sex fact that is not common knowledge - Kissing can help to reduce dental problems such as tooth decaying! More saliva is produced in the mouth when you kiss and as saliva helps to clean your mouth of bacteria, the result is fewer dental problems. So if you want to improve oral hygiene, start kissing!
Didn't we say you'd find these lovemaking facts very interesting?
Sex makes you more intelligent
Medical research has found that sex helps to bring about seven different types of chemical reactions in your brain, all of which optimize the functioning of your brain. Hormones such as serotonin and oxycotin are also released during and after sex, which make you more creative and help in decision making.
Older people are doing it too!
Various studies in America have revealed that people in the age group of 57-85 years still believe that sex is an important part of their lives and are in fact indulging in lovemaking about 2-3 times every month. We will have to wait for similar studies to be conducted in India to know if the same holds true for older Indians as well!
Sex can increase your life span
If you are a man that is. Having sex at least once a week, on a regular basis, has shown to increase a man's life greatly. Men are more likely to live longer than 80 years if they have an active sex life. Lovemaking helps to lower a man's risk of death by heart ailments by 30%, from stroke by 50%, and diabetes by 40%!
But women have more orgasms!
Till a decade back, only about 25% of women who had sex actually had orgasms. However, in the last few years, this figure has gone up to about 45%. Women today also do not fake orgasms as much as they did and are more open to telling their partners if they did not climax
Oral sex can lead to throat cancer
Medical studies have shown that people who have indulged in oral sex with more than 5 partners in their lifetime are at an increased risk of throat cancer. The same does NOT hold true for people with fewer sex partners. Another reason to practice safe sex and remain faithful!
Sex at work is on the rise
Mixing business with pleasure seems to be extremely popular nowadays. Statistics suggest that 1 in every 5 people is indulging in sex with their colleagues at work. Not just that, but lovemaking during office hours is also on the rise; with the boss's desk being the place of choice!
Abstinence does not work
Now there's scientific proof that claims that abstinence programs just do not work. There has been no decrease in unwanted pregnancies or in the number of STD's in spite of various abstinence programs in colleges and universities. Educating youth about safe sex and the consequences of unsafe sex is what needs to be focused upon.
The world's most sexless nation is
...Japan! Yes, Japanese people are more unsatisfied with their sex lives than people of any other nation. More than 35% of married Japanese couples do not indulge in lovemaking at all. Now that's one problem that does not seem to inflict Indians!
Threesome's aren't as rare as you think
About 70% of people fantasize about having group sex at some point in their lives; with a fair majority of such people actually indulging in it. Gay and lesbian lovemaking is also on the rise.
Chocolate may be better than sex!
Eating chocolate turns you on more than sexual foreplay can. It has also been proved that chocolate consumption accelerates your heart beat and increases brain activity more than lovemaking can. But while all this may be true, people would still rather make love over eating a piece of chocolate!
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
99 Facts About Guys! Believe It Or Not...
1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys love flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting
around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!!!!!!
14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys EUR™ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting.
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
59. Guys don't really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they'll realize they're wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships
2. Guys love flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting

7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!!!!!!
14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys EUR™ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting.
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
59. Guys don't really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they'll realize they're wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships
[Warning: some images on this list are not work safe] Sex is one of life’s pleasures and it is practiced by most people at least once in their lifetime. This list takes a look at some more unusual facts about sex and sex related topics. Feel free to add your own interesting facts to the comments.

Fascinating Fact: Sexual acts lead to weight loss
The average human loses 26 calories when kissing for a minute. Furthermore, vigorous sex for half an hour burns 150 calories (you can lose three pounds in a year – if you have sex 7 to 8 times a month). Kissing is also very good for your teeth: the extra saliva released during the act helps to keep the mouth clean – reducing the risk of decay.

Fascinating Fact: In Victorian times, whores wore pubic wigs
The pubic wig (merkin) has been around since the 1400s when it was originally worn by women who had shaved their pubic hair off to prevent lice. In the Victorian times it was frequently worn by prostitutes who wanted to conceal the fact that they had diseases like syphilis (Honest – we aren’t merkin’ this up). They are also used in the film industry to conceal actors genitals in nude scenes.

Fascinating Fact: Condoms were originally made of animal intestines or linen
In Asia before the fifteenth century, some use of glans condoms (devices covering only the head of the penis) is recorded. In China, glans condoms may have been made of oiled silk paper, or of lamb intestines. In Japan, they were made of tortoise shell or animal horn (ouch). In the 16th century,condoms were often made with linen sheaths soaked in a chemical solution and allowed to dry before use. The cloths were sized to cover the glans of the penis, and were held on with a ribbon. Pictured above is an animal intestine condom from the early 1900s.

Fascinating Fact: Sex cures headaches
Next time your significant other refuses your advances by claiming to have a headache, remember this fact: the sex act can help to cure a headache. Sex causes the body to release endorphins which naturally reduce the pain of a headache.

Fascinating Fact: Sperm is good for the skin
The proteins in sperm have a tightening effect on the skin. When sperm is left to dry, the evaporation of the water in it leaves behind protein which can help to reduce wrinkles. While this may be an excellent anti-aging treatment, the obvious downside is that you have to walk around with sperm on your face.

Fascinating Fact: Pubic hair is programmed to grow a certain amount
All hair on the body is controlled by a “growth program” which determines the growth duration (and consequently the length) of hair.Pubic hair has a shorter growth duration (on average just a few months) compared to hair on the head. This is what stops pubic hair growing to unmanageable lengths.

Fascinating Fact: The term “blow job” comes from the Victorian times
In Victorian times, a slang term for a prostitute was “blowsy”. At the same time, “blow” was slang for ejaculation. Consequently, by the 1930s, the act of fellatio came to be known as a blow job. It was also used to describe jet planes in World War Two. In Ancient Greece, the common slang for a blow job was “playing the flute”.

Fascinating Fact: Men looking at male porn produce more sperm
Studies have shown that men who looked at porn of two men and one woman produced more sperm than those who looked at just women. Scientists speculate that seeing competition makes men step up their baby-making capacities.

Fascinating Fact: Humans aren’t the only creatures to have sex for fun.
Humans aren’t the only members of the animal kingdom that have sex just for fun. Dolphins and Bonobo chimps have also been observed engaging in sexual activity, when they are not in their natural reproductive cycles. With the exception of a pair of Cohan gorillas observed doing so, bonobos are the only non-human animal to have been observed engaging in all of the following sexual activities: face-to-face genital sex, tongue kissing, and oral sex. When Bonobos come upon a new food source or feeding ground, the increased excitement will usually lead to communal sexual activity, presumably decreasing tension and allowing for peaceful feeding. Interestingly, Bonobo chimps also play and experience joy like humans.

Fascinating Fact: Some female penguins engage in prostitution
Believe it or not, in the wild, certain female penguins (even when in a committed relationship) will exchange sexual favors with strange males for the pebbles they need to build their nests. According to Dr Fiona Hunter (a zoologist): “It tends to be females targeting single males, otherwise the partner female would beat the intruder up.” On some occasions the prostitute penguins trick the males. They carry out the elaborate courtship ritual, which usually leads to mating. Having bagged their stone, they would then run off. [Source]
10: Weightloss

Fascinating Fact: Sexual acts lead to weight loss
The average human loses 26 calories when kissing for a minute. Furthermore, vigorous sex for half an hour burns 150 calories (you can lose three pounds in a year – if you have sex 7 to 8 times a month). Kissing is also very good for your teeth: the extra saliva released during the act helps to keep the mouth clean – reducing the risk of decay.
9: Pubic Wigs

Fascinating Fact: In Victorian times, whores wore pubic wigs
The pubic wig (merkin) has been around since the 1400s when it was originally worn by women who had shaved their pubic hair off to prevent lice. In the Victorian times it was frequently worn by prostitutes who wanted to conceal the fact that they had diseases like syphilis (Honest – we aren’t merkin’ this up). They are also used in the film industry to conceal actors genitals in nude scenes.
8: Condoms

Fascinating Fact: Condoms were originally made of animal intestines or linen
In Asia before the fifteenth century, some use of glans condoms (devices covering only the head of the penis) is recorded. In China, glans condoms may have been made of oiled silk paper, or of lamb intestines. In Japan, they were made of tortoise shell or animal horn (ouch). In the 16th century,condoms were often made with linen sheaths soaked in a chemical solution and allowed to dry before use. The cloths were sized to cover the glans of the penis, and were held on with a ribbon. Pictured above is an animal intestine condom from the early 1900s.
7: Not Tonight Josephine

Fascinating Fact: Sex cures headaches
Next time your significant other refuses your advances by claiming to have a headache, remember this fact: the sex act can help to cure a headache. Sex causes the body to release endorphins which naturally reduce the pain of a headache.
6: Skin Care

Fascinating Fact: Sperm is good for the skin
The proteins in sperm have a tightening effect on the skin. When sperm is left to dry, the evaporation of the water in it leaves behind protein which can help to reduce wrinkles. While this may be an excellent anti-aging treatment, the obvious downside is that you have to walk around with sperm on your face.
Just paying the bills...
5: Pubic Hair

Fascinating Fact: Pubic hair is programmed to grow a certain amount
All hair on the body is controlled by a “growth program” which determines the growth duration (and consequently the length) of hair.Pubic hair has a shorter growth duration (on average just a few months) compared to hair on the head. This is what stops pubic hair growing to unmanageable lengths.
4: Blowsy Gal

Fascinating Fact: The term “blow job” comes from the Victorian times
In Victorian times, a slang term for a prostitute was “blowsy”. At the same time, “blow” was slang for ejaculation. Consequently, by the 1930s, the act of fellatio came to be known as a blow job. It was also used to describe jet planes in World War Two. In Ancient Greece, the common slang for a blow job was “playing the flute”.
3: Male Porn

Fascinating Fact: Men looking at male porn produce more sperm
Studies have shown that men who looked at porn of two men and one woman produced more sperm than those who looked at just women. Scientists speculate that seeing competition makes men step up their baby-making capacities.
2: Sex For Fun

Fascinating Fact: Humans aren’t the only creatures to have sex for fun.
Humans aren’t the only members of the animal kingdom that have sex just for fun. Dolphins and Bonobo chimps have also been observed engaging in sexual activity, when they are not in their natural reproductive cycles. With the exception of a pair of Cohan gorillas observed doing so, bonobos are the only non-human animal to have been observed engaging in all of the following sexual activities: face-to-face genital sex, tongue kissing, and oral sex. When Bonobos come upon a new food source or feeding ground, the increased excitement will usually lead to communal sexual activity, presumably decreasing tension and allowing for peaceful feeding. Interestingly, Bonobo chimps also play and experience joy like humans.
1: Animal Prostitution

Fascinating Fact: Some female penguins engage in prostitution
Believe it or not, in the wild, certain female penguins (even when in a committed relationship) will exchange sexual favors with strange males for the pebbles they need to build their nests. According to Dr Fiona Hunter (a zoologist): “It tends to be females targeting single males, otherwise the partner female would beat the intruder up.” On some occasions the prostitute penguins trick the males. They carry out the elaborate courtship ritual, which usually leads to mating. Having bagged their stone, they would then run off. [Source]
Monday, November 2, 2009
Tuesday Thirteen: Sexual Phobias
Sexual Phobias
Erotophobia is the fear of sexual love or sexual questions.
Eurotophobia is the fear of female genitalia.
Genophobia is the fear of sex.
Malaxophobia is the fear of love play.
Medomalacuphobia is the fear of losing an erection.
Medorthophobia- is the fear of an erect penis.
Oneirogmophobia is the fear of wet dreams.
Paraphobia is the fear of sexual perversion.
Parthenophobia is the fear of virgins.
Ithyphallophobia is a morbid fear of seeing, thinking about or having an erect penis.
Coitophobia is the fear of sexual intercourse.
Philemaphobia or Philematophobia is the fear of kiss.
Gymnophobia is the morbid phobia of being nude.
Gymnophobia is the morbid phobia of being nude.
Don’t worry! I’m not going to ask you if you have any of these phobias.
Tuesday Thirteen- 13 Things not to say during sex
Things Not to Say During Sex
- Are you almost done?
- Hunny did you lock the door?
- You’re done already?
- Try not to mess up my hair will you?
- I feel a headache coming on.
- Hunny, have you put on some weight?
- Again? I’m tired.
- Is it in yet?
- Stop, I gotta pee.
- Are you ok?
- Hurry up before the kids get home.
- Did you fart?
- Was it good for you?
Please feel free to add one of your own in the comment section.
13 Sex Facts – Tuesday Thirteen
Sex Facts
Did you know?
* Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being
* A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.
* The earliest known illustration of a man using a condom during sexual intercourse is painted on the wall of a cave in France. It is dated between 12,000 and 15,000 years old.
* The first condoms in the US were made from vulcanized rubber in the 1870s. They were expensive and annoyingly thick and meant to be reused.
* In Texas it is illegal to sell a vibrator as anything other than a ‘novelty’.
* Only 17% of women are likely to have an orgasm during sex (Durex Global Sex Survey).
* According to a survey of sex shop owners, cherry is the most popular flavor of edible underwear.
* A man will ejaculate approximately 18 quarts of semen, containing half a trillion sperm, in his lifetime.
* 48% of 9,100 men polled on an online dating site say they too have faked an orgasm.
* In ancient Greece and Rome dildos were carved out of everything they could get their hands on from wood, glass, leather, gold, silver and even animal horns.
* The left testicle usually hangs lower than the right for right-handed men. The opposite is true for lefties.
* A female orgasm is a powerful painkiller (because of the release of endorphins), so headaches are in fact a bad excuse not to have sex.
* John Harvey Kellogg invented corn flakes as a meatless breakfast food, designed to reduce the sexual drive.
Interesting Sexual Facts about both Animals and Humans
Men
A man will ejaculate approximately 18 quarts of semen, containing half a trillion sperm, in his lifetime
Men are six times more likely than women to peruse sexually explicit material on the Internet
The smallest erect penis on record was just 1cm long
Three out of a thousand men (0.3%) are well endowed enough to fellate (blow) themselves to orgasm
According to recent surveys, the man is the most likely partner to be tied up during sex
Among primates, man has the largest and thickest penis
Studies have shown that men become sexually aroused nearly every time they dream
Studies show that, for some unknown reason, the higher the level of education, the more men tend to have wet dreams
The male fetus is capable of attaining an erection during the last trimester
At age seventy, 73% of men are still potent.
A man's testicles increase in size by 50% when he is aroused.
The left testicle usually hangs lower than the right for right-handed men. The opposite is true for lefties.
56% of men have had sex at work.
Average number of times a man will ejaculate in his lifetime: 7,200; Average # of times he will ejaculate from masturbation: 2,000.
Average length of penis when not erect: 3.5 inches; Average length when erect: 5.1.
Percent of men who say they masturbate: 60% (the other 39% lied).
Percent of men who say they masturbate at least once a day: 54%.
Amount of time needed for a man to regain erection: from 2 minutes to 2 weeks.
Average # of erections per day for a man: 11.
Average # of erections during the night: 9.
Odors that increase blood flow to the penis:lavender, licorice, chocolate, doughnuts, pumpkin pie
Women
About one per cent of women can orgasm solely through breast stimulation.
30% of women over the age of 80 still have sexual intercourse either with their spouse or boyfriends.
Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.
Women who went to college are more likely to enjoy both the giving and receiving of oral sex than high school dropouts. (Amazing what one learns in college).
Women are most likely to want to have sex when they are ovulating.
Women with a Ph.D. are twice as likely to be interested in a one-night stand than those with only a Bachelor's degree.
According to Penthouse magazine, more women complain about infrequent sex than men do.
Forty percent of women have said they had an orgasm while dreaming about sex.
That number is 80% for men.
The frequency with which a woman has orgasms during her sleep actually increases as she ages during her childbearing years.
According to Playboy, more women talk dirty during sex than men
It's been estimated that one out of every two hundred women is born with an extra nipple.
A female orgasm is a powerful painkiller (because of the release of endorphins), so headaches are in fact a bad excuse not to have sex.
Sperm
Semen contains small amounts of more than thirty elements, including fructose, ascorbic acid, cholesterol, creatine, citric acid, lactic acid, nitrogen, vitamin B12, and various salts and enzymes.
Sperm banks keep their donor semen at approximately -321 degrees Fahrenheit. At that temperature, it could be kept indefinitely.
There are five calories in a teaspoon of semen.
Average speed of ejaculation: 28 miles per hour; Time it takes the sperm to travel the distance: 2.5 seconds.
Distance sperm travels to fertilize an egg: 3-4 inches
It takes a sperm one hour to swim 7 inches.
Man VS Animal
Half of the men raised on farms have had a sexual encounter with an animal, according to research.
A pig's orgasm lasts for 30 minutes
Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.
The black widow spider eats her mate during or after sex.
Around the World
In Medieval France, cheating wives were made to chase a chicken through town NAKED
Australian women have sex on the first date more than women the same age in the USA and Canada.
Today, Japan leads the world in condom use. Like cosmetics, they're sold door to door, by women.
Wyoming’s Grand Tetons mountain range literally means “Big Tits”.
While nudity was considered commonplace to the ancient Greeks, a man was considered indecent if he had an exposed erection
The first known contraceptive was crocodile dung, used by the Egyptians in 2000 B.C. It was replaced with elephant droppings when they realized it wouldn't work.
When men of the Walibri tribe of central Australia greet each other, they shake penises instead of hands.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Female Masturbation: Dealing With Mom
"I know my Mom found my stash of play things in my bedroom because they had been moved from the way I left them and she has subsequently been acting very coldly to me. I don't feel in the wrong but I don't like her treating me like this. What should I do?"
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Our parent's generation was even less open than ours on the subject of masturbation. Being confronted with the fact that you are active in this area may be causing her some real problems. If she sees masturbation as 'wrong' then she is working through the conflict of you, who she loves, doing something that she sees as wrong.
Even if she is comfortable with the idea of masturbation then coming to terms with the fact you have grown up and have sexual desires of your own could be difficult for her. It is going to take her time and there is only so much you can do to help. Trying too hard could force her into saying or doing something you may both regret.
Be patient. If she raises the subject then be frank and tell her that you know its natural and normal and that you intend to continue and that you hope she can understand. If she continues to treat you coldly then try to be warm to her and she may well respond as she sees you are still the daughter she loves, no matter what.
The only scenario I have a concern about is if she tries to precipitate a confrontation by removing your toys or trying to insist you do as she wants in her house. (I don't know her so I can't say it won't happen, but it is very unlikely unless you have a problem relationship to start with).
If she takes this stance you can stand your ground or you can agree to do as she asks - then it would be up to you whether you stick to your word or not.
Masturbation myths: Fact or fiction?
Hands up all those of you who have heard these statements before;
Masturbation:
- Will make you go blind.
- Will stunt your growth.
- Will make you go insane.
- Will give you hairy palms
- Will give you acne.
Most of us now recognize that the above were just myths but as teens we may well have believed them. Of course if they were true then half the world's population would be blind dwarfs with acne and hairy palms because surveys suggest that over 80% of women and 99% of men masturbate or have masturbated at sometime in their lives.
Many of the sexual myths that survive today have deep roots. For example, around the turn of the century, many adults were so against masturbation that they forced girls to wear gloves made of a wire wool substance at night and would put powder on their genitals that made them painful to touch.
Boys were often forced to wear chastity belts at night so that an erection would cause pain. Sex was not meant to be pleasurable, it was only for making babies. Self-gratification was seen as the lowest form of pleasure back in those days and the foundation for that belief had been laid thousands of years before.
Okay, so I know we, thankfully, don't torture our kids in order to curb what is a natural instinct but masturbation is still seen as wrong by many people. Many of us still feel uncomfortable masturbating into adulthood because of what we were taught or told in those early years by our parents or peers.
Those fears still persist even if we logically know that many are unfounded.
Even between adults many masturbation myths abound.
Ever heard the one about how only losers masturbate as they can't get the real thing?
Or the one that states that couples never masturbate?
In both cases neither is true. Many people masturbate for many reasons the most common ones being:
- It's pleasurable.
- It helps them relax. It's safer than using tranquilizers and has no side effects.
- It is always available when sexual tensions need releasing.
- It allows them to have as much gratification as they want, when they want it, and at their own speed.
- It is the one form of sex with no risk of disease, pregnancy or emotional upset.
- No partner/audience (usually) means they can be less inhibited in their use of toys and any other item they may personally find erotic.
- It helps them get to sleep if they are suffering from insomnia.
- It gives a degree of relief from the physical discomforts many feel during periods.
- It's free!
There are many, many more reasons why people masturbate, the above are just the most common ones.
To be fair there are also people that do not masturbate either for religious or moral reasons. There is absolutely nothing wrong with abstaining from masturbation on any grounds.
The act of masturbation by its very definition is about pleasure. If doing it makes you feel guilty or doesn't give you pleasure then please don't feel that you have to do it.
Some people maintain the belief that if you masturbate you will no longer be a virgin. This is another falsehood. Masturbation will not take away your virginity. A virgin, by definition, is someone who has not had sexual intercourse.
Masturbation isn't sexual intercourse. If you insert your fingers or other objects into your vagina, you may disrupt your hymen (the membrane that stretches across the opening and is typically broken during first-time sex).
But if you have not had sex, then you are still a virgin. There are many ways a woman can break her hymen accidentally without having sex, and none of them take away her virginity.
Married/cohabiting couples never masturbate is yet another common myth.
In fact the reverse is often true. Mutual masturbation can often add to intimacy in a relationship and open channels of communication between a couple. Many people feel that they are failing in some way if they discover their partner is masturbating.
This again is just not true in most cases. Often in a relationship one partner has a higher sex drive than the other, sometimes one partner may work away. If it worries or concerns you try and talk to your partner about why they feel they have to masturbate. You may just be surprised by the answers.
Pregnant woman shouldn't masturbate is another.
There is no medical evidence to suggest that this will harm the child or Mother in anyway. New studies are showing that an orgasm can be a natural way to induce labor in the later stages of a pregnancy. This research is still in it's infancy but many nurses have long recognized this fact. There was a thought that orgasm could lead to premature labor and delivery, however new studies are now finding this is not always the case.
Masturbation is a natural stress reliever and can therefore benefit a pregnant woman in the latter part of pregnancy when perhaps penetrative sex becomes more difficult to achieve. HOWEVER, if you do have a history of premature labor, it is always best to check with your physician.
Mirror, Mirror On The Wall (Or In My Hand)...
Masturbation! One of my very favorite things! I've been reading about other women's experiences and thought I'd add some of my own.
Just the idea that other women will be reading this is a big turn-on. A couple of days ago I read a post on the discussion board about using a mirror when you masturbate and I decided to share some of my experiences. If any other girls would like to share e-mail's about masturbation, I'd really love to hear from you.
Watching myself in a mirror, including holding a hand-mirror between my legs, while I masturbate is a big turn-on for me. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist anyway and doing it in front of a mirror and fantasizing that the girl in the mirror is doing it right along with me and watching is something I just love to do.
I have a chair in just the right position near the full-length mirror in the bedroom and I have made good use of it on many occasions. I also love looking at my cunt while holding a hand-mirror and seeing all the changes.
When I was going through puberty I used a mirror almost every day to examine my cunt, noting the changes as I developed and my pubes were growing in. From simply "examining" it was just a short step to watching myself masturbate, using either a hand mirror or standing in front of a full-length mirror.
When I did it in front of the full-length mirror I would fantasize that someone (usually a girlfriend, but sometimes a group of guys) was standing on the other side of the mirror watching me and that fantasy always brought me to orgasm in a matter of just a few minutes.
I now have a two-sided hand-mirror and the mirror on one side magnifies. It's absolutely awesome to see my inner lips go from a real pale pink to a much darker shade and get all swollen, along with my labia that get really "puffy" and to see my wetness increase as I continue to stimulate myself with either my fingers or my favorite toy, an electric massager.
It's hard for me to keep my eyes open and focused at the moment of orgasm and when I can afford it I'm going to get a camcorder to record myself masturbating and having an orgasm...or many orgasms.
I love having sex in front of a mirror and watching myself and my partner; another big turn-on. I've used my magnifying mirror several times so I could get a really good view of his cock sliding in and out of me and that's another big turn-on.
I very much like being watched masturbating by my boyfriend (and watching him, too) and have had this experience (watching and being watched) with several guys, the first time when I was about 14. Guys seem to really get turned-on watching a girl masturbate and they also get off by jacking-off in front of a girl, at least in my experience.
One of my major fantasies (but, so far, it hasn't happened in real life) is to masturbate with another girl and very often I will fantasize while I'm masturbating that some girl I know is there with me, both of us masturbating and watching each other.
Another fantasy is that I'm lying on the floor, naked and masturbating, and a group of about 6-8 people, both guys and chicks, are kneeling around me, all of them naked and masturbating, too. We pace ourselves and all cum at the same time, the guys shooting on my boobs (something else I like a lot).
I think that I've been really curious about masturbation since I first learned how when I was 10. I talked with my girlfriends about how how good it felt and some of them were just totally grossed out but I know that at least some of them, and probably all (but they wouldn't admit it) tried it out and liked it as much as I did.
I learned about masturbating and orgasms both by just experimenting, like I suppose most girls do, touching myself "down there" and liking the feelings and also from reading.
When I was young I read all the time (and still do, which probably explains my being a journalism/lit major in college). My parents had a small (but to me very interesting) collection of sex books in their bedroom.
They didn't really hide them and I discovered them about the same time I discovered the wonderful world of masturbating. I learned that what I was doing was called masturbation and the feeling I got was an orgasm. I learned a lot more, too, and was very eager to try out a lot of things.
One of the books was "The Joy of Sex" (if you haven't read it, I strongly recommend it). The explicit drawings are just incredibly erotic and I think that ever since I became sexually active at 17
I've probably tried all the positions and activities at least once with more than a few partners, including mutual masturbation.
I've tried a lot of different methods, including inserting various things in my vagina when I was younger.
This wasn't all that much of a sexual turn-on, other than it being kind of "naughty" and, other than my fingers, I very seldom use anything inside me when I masturbate. I've tried "humping" and when I was younger that was somewhat of a turn-on and I could make myself cum that way, but it took awhile.
The shower massager definitely works for me, as do the water jets in a swimming pool. I've experimented with a few other methods - leaning up against the corner of a washing machine during the spin cycle (hey, it works!), rubbing against the arm of a sofa, electric toothbrush (that works pretty good, too).
I discovered toys about the same time I discovered my parents' library of sex books. My mother had a vibrator hidden under some stuff in her bedstand and it knew immediately what it was for. I remember that my reactions to this discovery were mixed...I felt guilty about snooping, aroused and, at the same time, I had a reaction of "ewwwww." I mean I knew that my parents had sex.
They were pretty open about sex and on occasion I would hear them doing it - there was really no doubt about what the noises meant. But the idea of my mother masturbating and having a vibrator...well, that was a revelation. Yes, I did try it out (her vibrator) and it was just incredible. At the same time, I felt really weird about using it - I mean, it was my mother's! But that didn't stop me and I "borrowed" it on many occasions and couldn't wait to get my own.
When I was 17 I had a 21 year old boyfriend for awhile and he was only too happy to go into a sex store and get me my first vibrator. It was the same kind my mother had - the bullet-shaped battery-operated type - and I put it to good use.
At the same time I was looking for something that was "stronger" and I was still 16 when I discovered what I consider to be the best toy of all, an electric massager (I now have two different ones).
This discovery came about when I was baby-sitting for a couple in their 30s who I thought were pretty hot and did a little snooping (OK, I know, that probably sounds really terrible and I guess it is, but I'll bet there are a lot of other people who have done it, too).
I actually found it in their bathroom - it was called a "muscle relaxer." Well, of course I had to plug it in and when I started it, holding it against my hand, I knew instantly that I absolutely must see what it was like in other places (like my clit). At first I just held it against my cunt through my jeans and that was just intense enough to make me want to find out what this thing could really do.
Well, as you can probably imagine, it took me about 2 secs to get my jeans and panties off and when I touched the massager to my clit I about went through the roof. I had never felt anything so intense in my entire life.
By this time I had been sexually active for a couple of years (longer than that if you don't count just intercourse) and had experienced fingers, tongues, cocks and, of course, my vibrator.
None of them even came close to the intensity of the sensations I felt with that massager. I came not once or twice but what seemed like innumerable times, one after another, until I couldn't cum any more.
The massager was a "Magic Wand" and it is truly awesome.
The only thing is that it was a little bit noisy and kind of big to be able to hide easily. I wanted one of my own so badly, but there was just no way I could figure out how to get one and keep it hidden. If my mom had found it I would've died of embarrassment.
But I babysat for this same couple on the average of once a week and the massager got a good workout every time. There was also a hand-mirror there that I could use and many times I used it along with the wand and the experience was fantastic. Part of the thrill was doing something so "naughty" - using another woman's sex toy - and I definitely enjoyed myself.
OK, back to the mirror thing for a minute...I've made use of mirrors in several different places.
Dressing rooms in stores for one, especially those that have a bench you can sit on facing the mirror. Usually I'll only do it if the dressing room has a door, not a curtain like in a lot of places.
Once I took the chance with a curtain and almost got caught...a woman walked by and I could see her feet as she stopped for a few seconds outside the dressing room I was in and I suddenly realized that she could probably see me reflected in the mirror.
I was tempted to just go ahead and finish (I've had a lot of fantasies about being caught and whoever it was that caught me joining in) but I chickened out and was dressed and out of there in about 2 minutes.
I've masturbated in many other places, and on two occasions that I can remember, more to be just a little wild more than anything else, I've used a makeup mirror - in a ladies room once and once in a secluded area in a park.
I was sitting with my back against a tree, wearing jogging shorts and just started feeling horny. So I took my mirror out of my purse and pulled my shorts aside and went for it.
Other places? A lot, really. In front of the full-length mirror in my dorm room last year (I was a freshman and had to live on campus), but that was always kinda risky because my roomie might walk in any minute.
I don't want to give the impression that the only times or ways I masturbate is when I can watch myself. Actually, that's only a really small percentage of the time. I usually masturbate at least once a day, pretty often more than that. I have a boyfriend and we do it in front of each other a lot, too.
One of these days I hope that I can experience my fantasy of doing it with another girl. In the meantime, the "other girl" will be in the mirror, doing it right along with me.
Next Time You Masturbate, Just Think...
- There are about 6 billion people on the planet, half are women = 3,000,000,000
- Five out of seven are of an age where they are likely to masturbate, or are at least able to = 2142857143
- About 60% of women masturbate (source Kinsey etc) = 1285714286
- Women seem to masturbate about twice a week on average (our survey and reading around) - 2571428571 sessions starting per week.
- = 734693877 sessions starting per day, or 30612244 per hour, or 510204 per minute, or 8503 per second (That must mean 8500 female orgasms per second in the world!)
- An average session (excluding multiple orgasm women) lasts 4 minutes (source Kinsey) so 2040816 women, on average, are masturbating at any time....
SO YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!
Female Masturbation: Risky Practices
The Internet is full of masturbation ideas and techniques for girls and women to try out for themselves. Unfortunately many of these ideas are probably little more than male fantasies, put up by males for their own entertainment, rather than for our enlightenment.
This would not be a problem if the ideas put on the net were all safe but this is not the case and there has to be a real danger that someone is going to hurt themselves if they try to test out some of the things they read.
For this reason we are providing some advice, not on does and don’ts, as its up to you what you do, but more on the risks and safeguards you should know about before indulging in some of the suggested activities.
"Using the water massager from the shower, I can control my orgasm by varying the water pressure on my clit."
"The water spilling out of the faucet directly on my clit relaxes me and eventually my orgasm comes in incredible waves."
"I love the feel of the water streaming from the showerhead onto my balls as I stroke my cock. I cum harder and faster."
"Adding a vibrator to my masturbation sessions has made my orgasms more intense and I love the control I have developed in using one."
"I use an anal vibrator which is held secure in my ass, and while it buzzes, I stroke my cock. The orgasms couldn't be any better."
Eating the item after use is a matter of choice but it would be safest to wash it thoroughly before consuming it, given the slight risk of bacterial infection. (Anally inserted items are obviously more dangerous than vaginally used items.)
"I have been using cucumbers for years and find them to be the easiest, cheapest, and safest item to use. People just think I love salads!"
"I use carrots for anal play and simply throw them away when I am done. I have been doing this since I was a young teen."
"Adding anal play has greatly increased the sensation I get when I masturbated." (Male)
"My friend and I were playing one day and he inserted marbles into his ass. He ended up in the emergency room so they could dig them out."
Electric Shock
One of the most talked about sex toys (and for good reason) are the electric massagers. These things are great and are usually safe but you have to remember that electricity has the potential for being dangerous.
Using any electrical device near or in water is especially dangerous; however there are some companies that advocate the use of the toys in the shower and this is total nonsense. Also, keep in mind that many of the personal massagers have a heating element to them, and this can be harmful to the genital tissues if over heated.
Remember that some of the more popular lubrication jells are water based so if you like to lube up before using your massager keep the gel off the switch and out of any openings the massager may have.
This would not be a problem if the ideas put on the net were all safe but this is not the case and there has to be a real danger that someone is going to hurt themselves if they try to test out some of the things they read.
For this reason we are providing some advice, not on does and don’ts, as its up to you what you do, but more on the risks and safeguards you should know about before indulging in some of the suggested activities.
The information given is not complete. Someone somewhere will have put up details of a practice we don’t yet know about and so by definition we can’t write about its risks. If you read about any unusual and potentially risky practices please let us know and we will do our best to hunt out and post any relevant information for you.
Water Play
The average tub, shower, and Jacuzzi, and yes, even the bidet, can be transformed in a place of masturbation bliss! Many sources describe the pleasure to be had from directing water jets from showerheads, faucet, Jacuzzis jets, etc at the genitals. The attraction is that the speed and stream style of the water can be controlled, which adds to making the experience more exciting.
Provided the jet is directed onto the vulva and not into the vagina, the water temperature is not too hot or too cold, and if the water pressure is kept at a comfortable pressure, the practice is safe and fun.
The risks come if these guidelines are not followed. Water play into which the jets are directed into the vagina can potentially cause damage and in some instances can result in a condition called an embolism, which is often fatal.
If the water gets too hot, as can happen on many showers because someone else turns on a faucet else where in the house, puts you ate risk for a scalding burn. Lying under the facet can also add, but again be aware of the potential water changes in temperature.
"Using the water massager from the shower, I can control my orgasm by varying the water pressure on my clit."
"The water spilling out of the faucet directly on my clit relaxes me and eventually my orgasm comes in incredible waves."
"I love the feel of the water streaming from the showerhead onto my balls as I stroke my cock. I cum harder and faster."
Sex Toys
Whether you buy your toys from a reliable source, or create some of your own from things found around the house, sex toys need to be kept clean and hygienic to prevent infection.
Rubber items, including dildos, gloves, sleeves off vibrators and even rubber clothing can harbor bacteria, but chlorine based disinfectants should NOT EVER be used on toys as this can throw off the good vs bad bacteria ratio in the vaginal canal.
Remember to rinse after cleaning and dry the item completely before putting away. (Washing up after masturbating may not sound like fun but it will ensure your toys are safe and ready for the next time). For more information on the care and cleaning of sex toys, please refer to the Adult Toy Section.
"Adding a vibrator to my masturbation sessions has made my orgasms more intense and I love the control I have developed in using one."
"I use an anal vibrator which is held secure in my ass, and while it buzzes, I stroke my cock. The orgasms couldn't be any better."
Food And Vegtables
Bananas, carrots, cucumbers, and corncobs, are probably some of the commonly used sex toys, given that they are easily obtainable, have no stigma attached when buying, and promoted for use by all sorts sources.
Many a girl or woman have enjoyed the experience of using such items as makeshift dildos but there are risks to be taken into account if you want to use them for masturbation pleasure. Any item to be inserted into your body must be cleaned thoroughly as many fruits and vegetables will have dirt, chemicals or yeast spores on their skins when purchased.
Nothing should be inserted that could break and leave parts inside you. Items that are too short to leave a ‘handle’ when inserted to the required depth are a risk too. Additional risks come from the fact that some foods may leave sugars behind that could encourage yeast growth (thrush).
Eating the item after use is a matter of choice but it would be safest to wash it thoroughly before consuming it, given the slight risk of bacterial infection. (Anally inserted items are obviously more dangerous than vaginally used items.)
"I have been using cucumbers for years and find them to be the easiest, cheapest, and safest item to use. People just think I love salads!"
"I use carrots for anal play and simply throw them away when I am done. I have been doing this since I was a young teen."
Anal Insertion
Dildo and object insertion into the rectum can be pleasurable but there are dangers to be taken into account.
Firstly, there is the risk of mechanical injury. If the dildo is too large or is not sufficiently lubricated before being inserted the anus and inner walls of the rectum may be torn or bruised. If the dildo is worked over enthusiastically, as may happen if a partner is using it on you the risk of injury is also increased.
Secondly, there is the risk of losing an inserted item. If the object inserted does not have a flange or similar at the base it may accidentally be pushed in too far and become lost. Even strings attached to the object may not be enough to enable recovery and a visit to the hospital may be the only option. Thirdly, there is a risk of infection.
Objects inserted have to be thoroughly cleaned before and after use. Failing to do this can result in bacteria from the rectum being introduced to other parts of the body where the object is used (vagina or mouth) and can lead to cross infection if you share the toy with a partner.
It should be noted that most dildos and household items you may want to insert are porous and can harbor bacteria even after the surface is thoroughly washed. Silicone toys are safe but for anything else consider using a condom each time you play to stop the toy becoming contaminated.
"Adding anal play has greatly increased the sensation I get when I masturbated." (Male)
"My friend and I were playing one day and he inserted marbles into his ass. He ended up in the emergency room so they could dig them out."
Electric Shock
One of the most talked about sex toys (and for good reason) are the electric massagers. These things are great and are usually safe but you have to remember that electricity has the potential for being dangerous.
Using any electrical device near or in water is especially dangerous; however there are some companies that advocate the use of the toys in the shower and this is total nonsense. Also, keep in mind that many of the personal massagers have a heating element to them, and this can be harmful to the genital tissues if over heated.
Remember that some of the more popular lubrication jells are water based so if you like to lube up before using your massager keep the gel off the switch and out of any openings the massager may have.
It is also important to keep an eye on the condition of the massager and its wire components.
Some women have massagers of 10 or more years of age and these are often hidden away in rough conditions where the wires can be damaged. If your massager is looking warn or damaged why not treat yourself to a new, safer one.
"The nice thing about my personal massager is no one really knows what I do with it late at night when I am all alone."
"My wife and I share her vibrator. Her clit gets a workout and then my balls. Sharing toys now is so much better than sharing them as kids."
ICE PLAY
Increasing references exist to the practice of putting ice cubes or Popsicles into the vagina or anus, or rubbing them on the clitoris.
Ice straight from the freezer can be very dangerous. It is so cold and requires so much heat to bring it up to melting point that it can and will freeze liquids it touches and can stick to your skin. (Remember the scene in Dumb and Dumber with the ski lift pole and the tongue?) Tissue damage and days of pain are likely consequences of using ice of this temperature.
Using ‘warmer’ ice, where it is already becoming wet and has not got that ‘smoking’ effect when in warm air, is less dangerous. If you want to try cold sensations on your body stick with ice of this type. Inserting ice is a different matter.
If ice on your clitoris is uncomfortable you simply have to move it away but if you have inserted a cube, removal may be tricky or impossible, with the result that you would just have to put up with the discomfort/pain until the ice melted away on its own. Consider this before popping one inside!
"My husband and I tried using a Popsicle one hot summer evening, but unfortunately things never got going. The pain I felt after I removed the Popsicle from my vagina was unreal. Never again."
"I suck on ice then my husband's penis, then rinse my mouth with warm water. The change in temperature sensations on his penis send him right over the edge."
"I hold the ice over my wife's nipples and as it melts in my hands and drips on them, she seems to become more excited."
Bottles And Bulbs
Just like babies are known to put just about anything in their mouths, there are adults who will put just about anything in their vaginas and rectums for sexual pleasure.
Don't.
Common sense must prevail here or serious injury could result. You should never insert anything that has the potential to break into the rectum or vagina. This would include, but is not limited to bottles, wooden items, sharp plastic items, and metal wires.
Sadly, the Internet is full of masturbation pictures in which items that are not safe are used for masturbation pleasure, which leads people to believe they are safe.
An increasing number of these pictures and the related stories suggest that glass bottles and light bulbs make good dildos. These and any other brittle/fragile object can break easily which can lead to internal lacerations and bleeding.
Just imagine the injury, pain and embarrassment that one of these things could cause if it broke during masturbation.
It is much safer to stick with objects that cannot break and potential damage your insides.
"Finding things around the house to use was always a challenge and I know I used things that were dangerous."
"I once used a hairbrush with the bristles inside of me. I ended up with some bleeding that eventually went away, but it scared the hell out of me.
Vacuum Cleaner Masturbation
Many people have the idea of using the household vacuum cleaner to stimulate themselves to orgasm.
A couple of things that need to be considered if this is an idea you want to try out:
Hygiene: the vacuum will have been used to clean up dirt and dust and will be likely to harbor lots of things you would not really fancy on your genitals (dust mites, hairs, dust, cigarette ash, stuff off the bottom of people’s shoes and lots of bacteria).
How a used vacuum could be made hygienic is beyond us so the only safe option would be to go for a new unit.
Suction: if the head of the cleaner is put into contact with your skin while the motor is running it could cause a painful ‘love bite’.(hickey). NEVER, ever place your penis directly into the vacuum unit.
The motor is run with blades and you could damage your penis with severe lacerations!
"I have put my cock in the vacuum tube, but I am not sure it added to the overall experience."
"I have heard some horror stories, so no thanks!"
Sensitizing Creams And Substances
The sex industry sells mild irritant creams that make the genitals feel hot or tingly. Such creams usually go under names like ‘Female orgasm cream’ and are, provided you are not sensitive (allergic) to them and you use them in moderation, reasonably safe to use.
As a tip, if you are new to a cream first try it on as small an area of your vulva as possible and be ready to wash it off with cold water if the reaction is uncomfortable. Others advocate the use of other irritants on the genitals as a way of increasing sensitivity and pleasure. Substances such as ginger powder, toothpaste and muscle rubs are suggested.
There are potent chemicals, which can give a long lasting and intense irritation to the sensitive tissues, so their use should only be contemplated if you are prepared for the possibility of significant pain and discomfort.
Be careful!! Know what the product does and it is potential side effects.
"I accidentally discovered that Vicks cream can add a 'spark' to my clit when rubbed. I use it, but only a tiny, tiny dab."
"I have used one of the creams that say my orgasm will be more intense. I was robbed. I felt nothing different except my vagina felt hotter."
Piercing
There is quite a fad for body and genital piercing and pictures of those that have had it done are all over the Internet. Claims that having labial, clitoral and nipple piercings gives sensual pleasure are common.
Maybe they do and maybe they don�t but if you are considering finding out for yourself, remember the following:
Piercing is only really safe when done by an expert and when recommended hygiene and aftercare rules are followed. If you go to a �backstreet� practitioner the risk of infection is high with hepatitis, septicemia and even AIDS being possible risks. Doing it yourself is also risky.
You would have to get sterile and noble(gold or platinum) jewelry, you would have to take care of any infection risk from the tools used and from bacteria on or around the area to be pierced and you would have to ensure bacterial and fungal infections could not take hold while your wounds heal.
On top of this is the likelihood that doing it yourself would be painful, slow and possibly would not give such a pleasing result as would a professional. If you still want to have body jeweler, take our advice, get it done by a registered professional.
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