What’s the Lubricant 411?

As many of you know, Pure Romance has been taking part in Empowerment Summits throughout the country training and empowering our Consultants to take their businesses to the next level.

During this all day training I get the opportunity to do what I love to do: educate our Consultants about Pure Romance’s products. This past Empowerment Summit I attended, some of the Consultants raised very important questions they receive from their customers regarding our lubricants.

Below are some of those questions and answers which I will hope shed some light on this must-have product.

Q: What is the difference from a Pure Romance lubricant and a lubricant that I can buy at the grocery store?

A: The first major difference between a Pure Romance lubricant and one that you can buy at the grocery store is the privacy you receive when purchasing our products. You don’t run the risk of running into your boss or one of your children’s teachers when you are purchasing a Pure Romance lubricant. The second difference is the quality of our lubricants. I make sure that Pure Romance lubricants are of the highest quality.

The lubricants sold in grocery and drug stores have a high concentration of ingredients that can often irritate the skin over time. Pure Romance has the lowest amount of these ingredients. We formulate our lubricants for all women, even those who are highly sensitive.

Q: If a customer has sensitive skin but wants to try a flavored lubricant what should I tell her? 

 A: We carry two different types of lubricants: our every day lubricants and our playful lubricants. Our every day lubricants are gentle and formulated for women who are sensitive.

I would advise a woman who has sensitive skin to stick with an every day lubricant. If she wants to try a playful lubricant, I would advise her to place a pea size amount on the inside of her elbow before bed. If she wakes up rash free then she should be okay to experiment with the playful lubricant during intimate activities.

Q: Do lubricants affect a woman’s fertility?

A: Lubricants do not “kill” sperm, or else they would be listed as a form of contraception. However, lubricants can decrease the concentration and mobility of sperm in the vagina, but this does not pose a problem for women who aren’t experiencing fertility issues.

Lubrication can make intercourse more enjoyable, which may increase the frequency of times you try to conceive, which can indirectly increase the likelihood of conception.

To learn more about the lubricants we offer, go to the Lubricant section of the PureRomance.com website.

What is a Vaginal Moisturizer?

When was the last time someone told you to hydrate your vagina? Don’t worry about reaching for your reading glasses. You read it right. I would venture to guess it wasn’t any time very recent (if at all!). The truth is no one ever talks to us about it.

Think about it: every woman out there at some time or another has had someone remind them of the importance of taking care of their skin. After all, how many of us have been walking in the mall when someone at a kiosk shouts out, “What moisturizers do you use on your face?” or “Do you want to know how to look 10 years younger?” Not surprising questions considering that many women do use special facial creams and regiments to ensure that their skin is hydrated and in good health. Yet, what people don’t realize is that every part of your party ages and goes through different types of changes and stress. Why should your vagina be any different?

Have you ever lied in bed one night while being intimate with a partner and felt like your mind was there but your body was not? What people don’t realize is that there are so many causes for vaginal dryness including childbirth, menopause, medications, etc. – common occurrences in everyday life. It’s so important not to confuse lubricants with vaginal moisturizers as a way to treat this.

Pure Romance’s Fresh Start is a wonderful product that can help counteract vaginal dryness. It is an estrogen-free vaginal moisturizer, making it great for all women, including those women who cannot or do not want to use hormone replacements. It is gentle and non-irritating and helps alleviate vaginal dryness, as well as the discomfort that accompanies this condition.

It is common for women of all ages to experience vaginal dryness at some point in their life, or even within their menstrual cycle. Vaginal dryness is most common among women going through menopause, due to the decrease in estrogen that occurs at this time. Estimates vary, but as many 40% of menopausal women may experience vaginal dryness.

To use Fresh Start, fill one of the included applicators with the vaginal moisturizer and insert into the vagina, applying the liquid as far into the vaginal canal as possible. The best time to use Fresh Start is before bedtime, allowing the product ample time to absorb into the vaginal tissues. Many women find it helpful to use the product everyday for a week to 10 days, until the start to see their symptoms decrease. After that time, women can use the product two to three times a week as part of a maintenance program, to keep their vaginal tissues moisturized and prevent vaginal dryness.

So next time a girlfriend asks you what you’ve done lately to take care of your face or skin, maybe you should ask them what they’ve done to hydrate their vagina! You may get a surprised look, but you’ll be doing your part to educate someone on this very important issue!

Cheating Hearts

The latest media hype surrounding Sandra Bullock and Jesse James came soon after the world-wide notorious Tiger Woods multi-mistresses scandal. Needless to say, infidelity has now become an even hotter topic in our society today. When it comes to how the couple should pick up the pieces, everyone has opinions on who’s right or wrong.

However, I truly believe no one has the real answer except the two people in the relationship. What might be right for one couple might not be for another – and as easy as it is to be judgmental – unless you’re living under their roof, it’s just not our place to pass judgment.

I do believe that if people would address their feelings of unhappiness, outside crushes, wandering eyes, etc., before they acted on them it could make such a considerable difference. More often than not, I don’t think these things just happen. Distractions and temptations always arise at some point or another in committed relationships, and the best thing a person can do is redirect that energy toward the relationship.

Find out what isn’t working and why you are feeling like you want to stray from the relationship and (if you truly love your partner) then do everything in your power to nip it in the bud as soon as possible and before the damage is done.

Over the years, I’ve seen a lot of marriages survive infidelity and find a way to recover; but there are also many that do not. What they can take away from it in either case is an important lesson learned. If they do decide to work it out, both parties have to put in the time and effort and it will take a great deal of pain and work (often times accompanied by outside professional help) to get back to a place of trust.

For those who assumed that Tiger would just bounce back and come home to a happy, healthy life (and bed of roses) is not very realistic. Even following years of earning back trust, after a betrayal it’s sometimes impossible to get back to the way things were before the indiscretion.

Nowadays there are far more “I Dos” than there are people taking these vows quite as seriously. It would be wonderful to see more classes and workshops to prepare couples before they even tie the knot – to show some of the challenges that may arise and how to remain truly committed.

So many people enter into a marriage never knowing what it’s like to have a spouse lose their job, to sit up all night with a sick child, or discuss how religion will play a part in their children’s lives, and even how they want to pay their bills.

Everyone handles pressure differently, and perhaps cementing that bond and strengthening communication before either partner strays will help keep the focus where it should be – on the marriage or relationship itself.

Couples Retreat

After a busy month, I wanted to find a movie to kick back and relax. Making my way down the DVD aisle, I saw the latest Vince Vaughn movie, Couples Retreat and threw it in my cart because he never fails to make me laugh! At the time, I had no idea that I would learn something from this comedy or even find the message as important as to include in my next blog. But here, we are!

If you haven’t seen it yet, I would even recommend you watch it two or three times because each time you will probably pick up on something else and really learn a lot about relationships and how we operate. With four different couples at the center of the film, any couple can probably find themselves in at least one presented in the movie. Although a light-hearted comedy, their issues are very real issues that plague many of us at some point in our lives.

Below are some significant messages that resonated with me and represented many of the concerns we see every day at Pure Romance. (I have to warn you before you read on, however, if you haven’t seen it yet: Spoiler Alert!)

Dave & Ronnie: One look at Dave and Ronnie and you would think they were the perfect couple. Like many pairings out there, things appeared all in working order, not only to the outside world, but even to each other. Yet, as the story unfolded, you began to see that there would have more than likely been trouble for them down the road.




There were so many opportunities for them to grow as a couple on a whole another level. Their relationship showed that people can always benefit from taking the time to give back, and no matter how perfect things may seem there’s always room for improvement.

Jason & Cynthia: Jason and Cynthia’s issue really hit home with me. They shared everything in common and had fallen deeply in love, but efforts to conceive had interfered with everyday romance and they found that they began to lose that spark.



This is such an under-addressed issue in relationships today which is why my 501c3 non-profit, The Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health is currently funding research with the University Of Cincinnati School Of Medicine, Department Of Obstetrics and Gynecology regarding intimacy issues related to infertility. In this case, this couple chooses to work on rediscovering this spark through the Couples Retreat; they show that if you stay focused and are both committed to doing whatever it takes to make things work, you can get back to that place with one another you never thought was possible.

Shane, Trudy & Jennifer: Shane and Trudy comprise the classic rebound scenario. Like I’ve said in many blogs past, sometimes it’s best to take time to heal and resolve emotional baggage before jumping into a new relationship. Even when you think it’s just for fun.



Buying a motorcycle and running around with a girl half his age (who he admittedly cannot keep up with) are two ways he tries to distract himself from the fact that he is still in love from his newly separated wife, Jennifer. He wasn’t facing his issues head on, but when the smoke cleared, he came to terms with his feelings for his wife and where he truly wanted to be.

Joey & Lucie: Joey and Lucie were High School Sweethearts who got pregnant on Prom night. 18 years later, they had both strayed from their marriage and were counting the days until their daughter was of age so they could divorce. I can’t tell you how many times I see couples who stay together because of the kids and then split as soon as they are grown and out of the house. Although this is a noble commitment, sometimes the best present you can give to your children is having them see both of you working on your relationship and living happily together.



How many years had they wasted not committing to do the work it takes to have a healthy relationship and just co-existing for their daughter? Where did they go wrong? For one, they weren’t communicating and had given up on their marriage and the passion that once brought them together. They failed to grow together and as a result grew apart. Do couples sometimes grow too far apart to return to where they once were? It happens. However, in this case, they were still very much in love but just needed to make the decision to really talk to one another – opening up about whom they were and how they felt as the people they had grown into today.

Overcoming the 1st Time Toy Jitters

Many people are surprised to discover that when I started as a Consultant over 25 years ago that I was a single mother of four who had never even owned a bedroom toy. The only experience I had with a lubricant was at my Gynecologist’s office during annual exams and that doesn’t necessarily put you in the mood!

It’s so common for people to be uncomfortable when it comes to learning about or trying bedroom accessories for the first time. During our Valentine’s Day Warehouse Sale last week, I was able to get the once-a-year opportunity to work with the public directly again and it really makes me laugh quietly to myself – mainly because I remember myself taking the journey from not knowing a single thing about intimacy products to becoming much more familiar about how they can help in relationships.

There are so many people who still carry many fears when it comes to toys; one in particular that was very common at the Pure Romance Sale was men who feared that a toy would replace them. They can be very intimidating with all the bells and whistles and it may seem hard to compete with a ‘Bionic Man’. Not to mention, like the Energizer Bunny they keep going, going and going and the only time they usually give out is when the batteries finally die! However, there is absolutely no truth in this. A bedroom toy can never replace the satisfaction and intimacy one can gain from human touch.

They can be great tools to help a woman learn more about her body (especially clitoral vibrators, since studies show that up to 75% of women can only climax from clitoral stimulation). Other products like the Pulsa Bath Ball are discreet and unintimidating and offer the dual purpose of an exfoliating bath sponge and a sensual all-over massage

Bedroom accessories can also be a wonderful aid in leveling the playing field between men and women – after all, like I’ve always said, women are like crock-pots and men are like microwaves – sometimes women need a little help catching up with men. Or, in the case of Erectile Dysfunction, for example, there are stimulators that can help the man become more aroused and C-rings and lubricants that can help him to stay erect and meet his partner half way. Additionally, as I mentioned in a recent blog, toys can also help a partner going through a grieving process (whether it be break-up, divorce, or death) to keep from jumping into a faulty relationship out of loneliness.

Another question we received from 1st time toy users was a frequently asked question from women on how to incorporate a toy into the bedroom. One of my favorite suggestions helps alleviate a lot of nervousness and incorporates some foreplay in the process. Using a vaginal vibrator in the Super Deluxe Mitten, such as the Velvet Touch, will enhance the massage for you or your partner and is a great segue into the conversation regarding vibration during lovemaking or stimulation, in general.

Whatever you decide, there is a wide selection of products that can bring a great deal of enhancement to any relationship!

Written by Patty Brisben the Owner of Pure Romance

Accepting the “Odd Couple”

How many times have you been in a mall or the grocery store and saw a couple affectionately strolling along, yet wondered, “How in the world did those two get together??” It may be your May-December romance or just your everyday Odd Couple, but whatever the case there’s usually some bystander looking on with a creased forehead and a raised eyebrow.

I just got to thinking about this after the recent hoopla surrounding this past season of ABC’s The Bachelor. There aren’t many people who have missed the media circus around Jake Pavelka and his fiancée Vienna Girardi with many people passing judgment on whether he chose the right girl or if it is even for real.

Although Reality Television is seldom real, it does raise one important point when it comes to love and romance, and that is who are we to judge the unique chemistry that drives two people to fall in love or even lust, for that matter? One thing that struck me while I was watching the Bachelor finale post show was when Tinley asked why if he loved her he felt something was missing. His response was that “there just wasn’t that spark”.

When it comes to intimate relationships we know often know our partners in a way that is so different from any other person. There is no way to describe it, package it, or even understand it ourselves, at times. This is especially true for those of us who have found ourselves head over heels in love with a person who doesn’t even remotely fit our idea of our “physical type”. Superficial things that may have turned us off in the past, such as a beard, a paunch stomach, a certain hair color, etc., can all fall to the wayside when raw chemistry steps up to the plate.

Even if I don’t necessarily agree with Jake’s decision or if they, like many Bachelor couples in the past, fail to live happily ever after, the important thing is if they are staying true to their feelings; you can’t let what others think affect your relationship – especially when it comes to matters of the heart! I do wish them the best and the same for any couple who is truly seeking pure romance.

So many are searching for (or already have) a connection with another human being and more than anything they are looking to bond on a deeper level. When you’ve found that feeling it’s even more important to nurture it; that’s what’s so great about Pure Romance. We lose or bury that spark in bills, responsibilities, and day-to-day mundane activities in our life. One of the things we want to constantly remind people is to always take time to remember the feelings you had in the beginning (emotionally, mentally and physically) and foster them throughout your relationship! Just remember, when you find it, cherish it; it won’t grow on its own without any help from you and your partner especially as the years go by.

Below is a list of some offbeat couples (actual and fictional) through history that have surprised many whether it survived the test of time, or not…



Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher


Marilyn Manson and Evan Rachel Wood


Marilyn Monroe and Arthur Miller


Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson


Madonna and Jesus Luz


Jack and Rose (Titanic)


Hugh Hefner and Holly Madison


Romeo and Juliet (Romeo & Juliet)

Skin Care is Essential to your Sensuality

A great skin regiment is so important, which is why we were thrilled to recently incorporate these products into our line. We had actually been using the products from this set for several years prior to bringing it on as part of the Pure Romance line. Throughout our travels, We’ve had the pleasure of visiting some of the most renowned spas in the world and time after time the estheticians would refrain from recommending the facials!

They would tell me that whatever product I was using I needed to continue doing so. I also discovered that this same exact facial set was being sold in many of these upper-echelon spas for upwards of $350 and $400. Pure Romance is about offering high quality products at practical prices which is why we are excited to announce that we are offering this set for only $85. The set is made up of the products listed below. For more information on individual pricing, feel free to visit www.prchristina.com

• pH Balancing Facial Wash is a gentle, natural pH balanced cleanser created for all skin types and is specifically formulated to clean the skin and flush away dirt and pollutants without leaving alkaline residue. This assures a clean and radiant tone. It is ideal for make-up removal and may be used over the entire body.

• Refreshing Facial Exfoliator combines a natural blend of live enzymes and nutrient-rich herbal extracts that create a deep cleaning action that gently buffs away dead surface cells and embedded impurities that contribute to clogged pores, exposing healthy, vibrant-looking skin.

• Toning Skin Spritzer tones and enlivens the skin while softening the appearance of facial lines for fresh, silky soft skin. Can also be used as a refreshing spritz when dehydrated or travelling, as well as over finished make-up to set the color.

• Hydrating Vitamin C Serum contains a unique blend of Hyaluronic Acid, Squalane and Vitamin C that stimulates the formation of essential Collagen and Elastin, thus preventing and even reversing the effects of aging. If you don’t pamper yourself already, it’s time to start. Women are often so busy taking care of everyone else, we sometimes forget to take care of ourselves – and it shows! I can’t tell you how many women write into me every day and talk about how they don’t take care of themselves and how it directly affects their self-image and intimate relationships. I believe one of the best ways to increase excitement in the bedroom is to make time to pamper yourself.

We are so excited that Pure Romance has introduced this product and that we are able to give back to women and ensure that when they look in the mirror they will feel both healthy and beautiful!

Mis-Matched Libido's

Many couples email us every day regarding mismatched libidos. In addition to age, there are many things that may affect a man’s desire and arousal, including stress, anxiety, certain medications, specific medical conditions, relationship issues, exercise, diet, and more.

Your partner may find it helpful to use an arousal cream, which can heighten sensations in the genitals. The arousal cream that I would most recommend for your partner is "O"; it is our maximum strength arousal cream and is great for men to use. The active ingredient in "O" is menthol, and it will provide a cool, tingly sensation to the genitals, helping to increase arousal. To use, your partner should apply a pea-sized amount to his penis (some men do not like it applied to their testicles, and some men may want it applied only to the most sensitive parts of their penis).

Another recommendation is for your partner to use a male stimulator, which is a masturbation sleeve that men can use alone or with a partner. You and your partner can use a male stimulator during foreplay to increase his arousal. You can also use a male stimulator to provide your partner with pleasure during manual stimulation. Pure Romance has a full line of male stimulators that you and your partner can use during foreplay to help increase his arousal. I recommend that you use an open-ended product, such as Super Stretch Blue or a closed ended one like Joy Ride, as these products offer the most suction, which can help draw blood to the penis even faster. When using any of Pure Romance’s male stimulators, I recommend that you pair it with a thick, creamy lubricant, such as Whipped, or in your case, All Night Long, which has special sensitizers that can again help slightly increase his arousal.

Once your partner is able to get an erection, he can use a c-ring to help him maintain it. A c-ring is worn at the base of the penis during intercourse; the purpose of the product is to restrict blood flow in the penis, helping to maintain erections. Many of Pure Romance c-rings come with a clitoral vibrator for your added pleasure. The c-ring that your partner may most benefit from is Jelly Tool Belt, which is very restrictive (the restriction will help to maintain an erection even more). Jelly Tool Belt’s clitoral stimulator has seven different speeds and functions for your pleasure. When using Jelly Tool Belt, and any of Pure Romance’s c-rings, I recommend pairing it with a thick, creamy lubricant, such as Whipped, for added comfort and satisfaction.

Communication is extremely important in relationships, and I encourage you and your partner to also discuss this situation. It may be helpful to talk openly about the possibility of working through this issue together so both partners are satisfied with the amount of sexual activity that occurs. The two of you may find it helpful to read the book When Your Sex Drives Don't Match: Discover Your Libido Types to Create a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life by Sandra Pertot. I think this book may help to put you and your partner on the same page in regards to your wants and desires.

Pregnancy & Pleasures

Worries about safety during pregnancy are common...

What will happen if the woman has an orgasm? 
Will the thrusting of the penis harm the baby? 
Might sexual activity cause a miscarriage? 
Are there any products I can’t use during pregnancy?

In fact, there is no medical evidence that suggests that sexual activity during pregnancy does any harm whatsoever. 

The only times you are likely to be advised against having sex are:

• If you have had a tendency to miscarriage. Your health care provider might suggest that you avoid intercourse for the first three months, or at the times during those months when your period would normally have been due, as your hormone levels may be at their lowest then.
•  If you have a history of premature labor, you might choose to avoid intercourse during the later stages of pregnancy.
• If you have a low-lying placenta, your health care provider may suggest you avoid intercourse.

The baby is very well protected by the muscular walls of the uterus, by the bag of water, which has a cushioning effect, and by the mucus plug which seals off the neck of the uterus. 

No injury will occur during gentle, loving intercourse.

Women often experience mild contractions during arousal and orgasm, but these contractions are not powerful enough to start a labor unless it is imminent.

While sex won't start labor unless the woman's body is ready, nipple stimulation and intercourse are natural ways to help induce labor in late pregnancy if your baby is overdue. Semen can soften the cervix, and hormones released by nipple stimulation encourage the uterus to contract.

As far as concerns with product use, we recommend using a mild lubricant, such as Just Like Me or Sweet Seduction.  We also recommend avoiding the use of Like A Virgin, an alum based tightening cream, during pregnancy. 






Pregnancy is a wonderful time to experiment with massage and utilize the Erotic Massage Book.  It is a great way to pamper a woman during pregnancy and still feel sensual.  If you have any additional concerns about safety during pregnancy, always check with your health care provider. 

Premature ejaculation: What Can We Do?

Premature ejaculation (PE) is the most common sexual dysfunction in men younger than 40 years. Most professionals who treat premature ejaculation define this condition as the occurrence of ejaculation prior to the wishes of both sexual partners.

This broad definition thus avoids specifying a precise duration for sexual relations and reaching a climax, which is variable and depends on many factors specific to the individuals engaging in intimate relations.

An occasional instance of premature ejaculation might not be cause for concern, but, if the problem occurs with more than 50% of attempted sexual relations, a dysfunctional pattern usually exists for which treatment may be appropriate.

Faced with involuntary ejaculation, most men try to distract themselves during intercourse, believing that by thinking about other things, they can trick themselves into lasting longer. Usually, that only makes things worse.

It is important for the man to not tune out his body. BUT TO TUNE INTO IT.

He needs to become more familiar with his different levels of sexual arousal. He also needs to recognize how he feels as he approaches ejaculation. Once he can recognize how he feels close to ejaculation, it's not difficult to make small sexual adjustments that allow him to remain highly aroused without ejaculating.

Sexual arousal is a four-phase process.

In the Excitement Phase, breathing deepens and erection begins.

In the Plateau Stage, erection becomes full and he will feel highly aroused.

When arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation Phase.

Then during the Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection subsides.

The key to ejaculatory control is to extend the Plateau Phase, to maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation.

To learn ejaculatory control:
    * Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting and they interfere with the self-awareness crucial to learning ejaculatory control.

    * Appreciate whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex happens only in the penis and only during intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket to uncontrolled ejaculation (not to mention erection problems, and women with those proverbial headaches).

The best sex involves head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to approach -- but not arrive at – ejaculation, need to appreciate whole-body sensuality, the pleasure potential in every square inch of the body.

Whole-body sensuality releases tension. Tense bodies that have no other outlet often find release through involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn to appreciate sensual pleasure from head to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off the penis, and he may last longer.

    * Whole-body sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation" involved in great sex is not the kind that includes an easy chair, a six pack, and Monday Night Football. It's the kind you feel after a hot bath or a good massage. In fact, bathing or showering together before lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.

    * Breathe deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed while making love is to breathe deeply. The body has a natural tendency to breathe deeply during sex. When men work to control their breathing, they often sacrifice ejaculatory control. Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their ejaculatory control.

    * Start with masturbation with a dry hand. By varying how he caresses his penis, he can learn to stay highly aroused for quite a while without ejaculating. When he feels himself approaching ejaculation, simply back off a bit, stroke more gently or not at all, and stay aroused without ejaculating.

Then as he feels himself getting a little distance from ejaculation, return to more vigorous self-stimulation. Repeat this several times over several sessions. Approach the point of ejaculation, then back off. For most men, it doesn't take long to develop good ejaculatory control while alone.

    * Then encourage him to move on to masturbation with a lubricated hand. For most people, lubricants increase the sensual intensity of erotic fondling. Follow the same program: masturbate until he approaches ejaculation, and then back off. Repeat this several times over several sessions.

    * Once he has good control during masturbation, appreciates whole-body sensuality, and feels comfortable breathing deeply during lovemaking, then he is ready to try this with a partner. This is called the "Stop-Start Technique." First, encourage "stop" and "start" signals with his lover, for example, a light pinch or tap, or a tug on an ear.

    * Then, his partner strokes his penis by hand as he lies still. When he approaches ejaculation, have him give the "stop" signal. His lover immediately stops stroking and simply holds his penis gently, as he continues to breathe deeply and pays close attention to the sensations he is feeling. When he no longer feels close to ejaculation, have him give the "start" signal, and his partner should begin stroking him again. How many stops and starts should you do? Do what feels comfortable for you – there is no exact method that is perfect for everyone.

      Once he’s gained good ejaculatory control with his partner’s hand, try the same stop-start procedure with oral caresses.  Once he has gained good control orally, try intercourse. 

Here are some other suggestions for lasting longer:
    * The man-on-top (missionary) position can be fun, but it's harder for most men to control their ejaculatory timing, because they have to hold themselves up. Try making love with the woman on top. This position is more relaxing for men, and it often helps ejaculatory control.

    * It's important to understand that learning ejaculatory control takes time and practice. You may feel a little awkward along the way. Try to maintain a sense of humor about any accidental spills.

    * Finally, the program we recommend for learning ejaculatory control is very likely to provide your lover with greater sexual enjoyment--but not just because you last longer. Women generally prefer leisurely, playful, whole-body, massage-oriented sensuality that includes the genitals but is not limited to them.

Women's main complaints about men's sexual style are that it's too rushed, too mechanical, too eager for intercourse, and that it focuses only on the breasts and genitals. Women generally feel that the whole body is a sensual playground, and can't understand why so many men explore only a few corners of it.

Like women, penises generally prefer leisurely, playful, whole-body, massage-oriented lovemaking. The rushed, penis-centered, intercourse-fixated sex style puts a lot of pressure on the penis, and leads to premature ejaculation.

But when men make love the way women prefer, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off the penis and he can last longer.

If you are still having concerns with premature ejaculation, please see your health care provider.  They may be able to provide you with another level of control, which may include taking medication. 

Lubricants 101

Why do we need a variety of lubricants?

For the same reason we need a variety of cosmetics - because every woman's likes are different, therefore what type of lubricant a woman will enjoy will be different.

A woman's needs vary depending on the time of the month, medications she is taking, type of intercourse she is participating in, the type of bedroom toy she is using, etc.

Lubricants can be the most critical item you buy – it can enhance both his & her comfort during intercourse.

Ask questions! Determine what lubricant will be best for you!!

Overall, no one type of lubricant Pure Romance offers is better than another.

Pure Romance offers several types of lubricants, including:

Water-based

Silicone-based

Oil-containing lubricants

Why water-based lubricants?

Safe for even the most sensitive woman a water-based lubricant does not stain

Is safe for use with latex condoms and all other barrier birth control methods, including:

Diaphragms

Cervical caps

They rarely cause irritation

Absorb naturally into the body.

AND they even have natural re-wetting qualities.

Pure Romance offers several types of water-based lubricants, including:

Just Like Me

Sweet Seduction

These lubricants are safe to use with ALL types of condoms.

Why silicone-based lubricants?

Silicone-based lubricants are completely waterproof! ....

Silicone-based lubricants:

Are ideal for underwater use.

Retain their lubricating properties better and longer than water-based lubricants

Are highly concentrated so a little goes a long way!

Are safe to use with ALL types of condoms.

Recommended for anal intercourse due to its long-lasting qualities.

An important note about silicone:

It CAN harm sex toys made from silicone, so use a different lubricant when using your bedroom toys.

Is not recommended for women experiencing extreme vaginal dryness, such as during and after chemotherapy treatment.  It does NOT absorb naturally in the body, so will not moisturize an extremely dry woman

Pure Romance offers a silicone-based lubricant: Pure Pleasure.

Pure Pleasure is safe to use with all types of condoms.

Pure Pleasure is also recommended for water or anal activities...

Why an oil-containing lubricant?

Oil-containing lubricants:

Are ACTUALLY water-based!

Have all-natural oils to enhance texture of the lubricant.

Are safe in the vagina, because they are water-based.

Oil-containing lubricants should be used with polyurethane condoms ONLY.

Oil in lubricants can break down latex so...

They should NOT be used with:

Latex condoms

Diaphragms

Cervical caps

Pure Romance offers two types of oil-containing lubricants, including

Sensations

Whipped

These lubricants are however safe to use with polyurethane condoms.

If you have any Questions please contact me.

Your Pure Romance Sexpert,

Christina Trejo

(708) 770-2657

www.prchristina.com

Did You Know? - Fun & Interesting Sexual Facts!

Did you know? "Ithyphallo phobia" is a morbid fear of seeing, thinking about or having an erect penis.

Did you know? According to a survey of sex shop owners, cherry is the most popular flavor of edible underwear. Chocolate is the least popular.

Did you know? In the Aztec culture avocados were considered so sexually powerful, virgins were restricted from contact with them.

Did you know? Marilyn Monroe, the most celebrated sex icon of the 20th century, confessed to a friend that despite her three husbands and a parade of lovers, she had never had an orgasm.

Did you know? The average shelf-life of a latex condom is about two years.

Did you know? 14% of Americans have skinny-dipped with a member of the opposite sex at least once.

Did you know? According to a U.S. Market research firm, the most popular American bra size is currently 36C, up from 1991 when it was 34B.

Did you know? "Formicophilia" is the fetish for having small insects crawl on your genitals.

Did you know? Male bats have the highest rate of homosexuality of any mammal.

Did you know? Studies show that women who went to college are more likely to enjoy oral sex (giving and receiving) than high school dropouts.

Did you know? A man's beard grows fastest when he anticipates sex.

Did you know? In earlier times, masturbation was believed to lead to blindness, madness, sudden death and other unpleasant diseases. Present research, however, shows no connection.

Did you know? The female bedbug has no sexual opening. To get around this dilemma, the male uses his curved penis to drill a vagina into the female.

Did you know? A man will ejaculate approximately 18 quarts of semen, containing half a trillion sperm, in his lifetime.

Did you know? The Geisha of Japan would not perform fellatio because it was considered demeaning for the cultured to do so.

Did you know? The first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time television were Fred and Wilma Flintstone.

Did you know? Sex is biochemically no different from eating large quantities of chocolate.

Did you know? Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.

Did you know? For every 'normal' webpage, there are five porn pages !!!!

Did you know? The word "fuck" is actually an acronym. It dates back to the Good Old Days, when England was severely underpopulated due to the usual combination of fire/war/plague, and the King issued an official order to, well, fuck, to replenish the population. Hence the phrase "Fornicate Under Command of the King" passed into everyday language.

Did you know? A pig's orgasm lasts for 30 minutes. A pig's penis is shaped like a corkscrew also it is physically impossible for pigs to look up into the sky unless, of course, you played 'pig-tipping'.

Did you know? It's an urban legend that men think about sex every 7 seconds. According to an intense Kinsey Institute study, the average man forms a thought about sex approximately every two minutes, and that he generally ponders the thought for about a minute, 50 seconds before letting go of it.

An associated legend - that every two minutes women think about shopping - is blatantly sexist and completely without basis. It has been shown, however, that every two minutes a woman who is with a man will wish that he'd stop staring at her chest.

Did you know? The earliest known illustration of a man using a condom during sexual intercourse is painted on the wall of a cave in France. It is dated between 12,000 and 15,000 years old.

Did you know? A medical study conducted in Pennsylvania showed that people who have sex once or twice a week have their immune systems boosted slightly.

Did you know? A U.S. News and World Report poll found 50 percent agree that it is better to remain a virgin until you marry, and 39 percent felt it's better to have sex with a few different partners before settling down to marry.

Did you know? During the 1920s, it was believed that jazz music caused one to permanently lose his sexual inhibitions. It was often banned in many cities. One private company went as far as to sell the elites "jazz proof" furniture.

Did you know? All humans are 99.9% genetically identical and 98.4% of human genes are the same as the genes of a chimpanzee.

Did you know? "Venus Observa" is the technical term for the "missionary position".

Did you know? Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.

Did you know? Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.

Did you know? Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up (if you use a condom). It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers!

Did you know? Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.

Did you know? The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!

Did you know? Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.

Did you know? Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up. Hey, and it burns up 26 calories!!

Did you know? Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.

Did you know? A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.

The Benefits of Masturbation

In 1972 the American Medical Association declared "Masturbation is a Normal Sexual Activity". Guess what? Not only is it "normal" for individuals to masturbate it is also very beneficial!

Boost Self Esteem - Masturbation can help overcome inhibitions, allowing for fulfillment of sexual desire, stemming self-confidence and self-image, giving others the impression of youthfulness.

Consistent Sex - Masturbation is truly the only way to have one's sexual needs met throughout life, whether too young or not ready to experience sex with a partner or one is not available.  Masturbation allows individuals to meet their sexual needs whenever and as frequently as they need.

Help Relationships - Although someone may be in a relationship sex may not yet be a part of the relationship, or schedules may not allow for the desired amount of sexual intimacy.  Self-pleasure can alleviate this sexual desire, decreasing sexual frustration, allowing for a clear head to deal with all the facets of the relationship

Improve Communication - Ever heard "you must love yourself to be loved by someone else"?  The same holds true sexually.  Having a good understanding of one's own needs and desires allows for the open communication of this information with one's partner, enhancing both of their sexual experiences.

Improves Overall Physical Health - Regular orgasms allow for the release of endorphins which cause an overall sense of contentment and relaxation, promoting better more regenerative sleep.

Improve Sexual Response - Regular masturbation with orgasms increases blood flow to the genitals.  This increased blood flow brings "intelligence" to this area making arousal during sexual acts with one's partner(s) easier and sensations enhanced.

Pain Control - Regular orgasms also release cortico-steroids the release of these and the endorphins are shown to increase the pain threshold, easing discomforts such as menstrual cramping, arthritis, migraines, etc.

Take a moment to check out or sexual health aides @ pureromance.com or click on the specials page here!!!

The Blended Orgasm

Here's a more intense climax to add to your repertoire. Your new slogan may become "I'll take mine blended."

Okay, you've heard of a clitoral orgasm and you've heard of the G-spot kind — both damn good in their own right. Now imagine if you blended the two types for one phenomenal fireworks-like finale. Yep, you can actually do that. It takes some specific techniques — which we teach you here — and a bit of practice, but experts say it's a skill you can master.

The Basics

As we said, a blended O is the combo of the two different ways women can climax. Clitoral orgasms usually come on faster because that area is so accessible. G-spot orgasms — named for the dime-size pleasure zone behind your inner vaginal wall — are considered much more intense because they reverberate from inside your body. "By simultaneously having your clitoris and G-spot stroked, you mix the unique sensations of each peak into one, resulting in a longer, deeper experience," explains Ava Cadell, PhD, a certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.

This kind of big bang won't just leave you feeling ah-mazing; your guy will reap its benefits too. "A blended orgasm requires different touches on two distinct body areas, and this extra effort naturally slows him down and helps him last longer," says Cadell. Plus, men love it when a woman really loses herself in lust. Watching you experience twice the power of a regular O will absolutely drive him over the edge as well.

How to Achieve One on Your Very Own

Before you pursue a blended O with your guy, it's a good idea to learn the ropes on your own so you're then able to better direct him, explains Lori Buckley, PsyD, a certified sex therapist in Pasadena, California.

The best way to start is by lying on your back comfortably and letting your body de-stress. When you feel relaxed, begin manually stroking your clitoris lightly. As you become more aroused, increase your pressure and speed until you're close to reaching your peak.

Once you're near the brink, take your hand off your clitoris and move it to your G-spot. If you're not sure where yours is, locate it this way: Insert a finger palm-up about an inch or two into your vagina, feeling for a spongy or puckered area along the front wall.

You'll know you've found it when a warm, sexy sensation washes over you...one that may even make you feel like you need to pee (because your G is near your bladder, it can trigger the urge to urinate, but don't worry, this should subside in a few seconds).

As you massage your G and become increasingly excited, resume stimulating your clitoris with your other hand or a vibrator...but don't take your finger off your G-spot. "While touching both, charge full speed ahead until you reach an explosive, pulsing kind of climax," says Buckley. If it doesn't happen the first time, practice, practice, practice.

Getting Your Guy In on the Action

Once you've located your G-spot and know how to bring yourself to a blended orgasm, you're ready to go for it with him. This position should make it easier: Lie on your back on the bed, your feet dangling over the edge, with a few pillows underneath your bottom to raise your pelvis. "It'll be easier for your man's penis to hit your G-spot if your vagina is elevated," says Buckley.

Have your guy stand or kneel (depending on how tall he is and how far off the floor the bed is) as he penetrates you. You two will form an L shape; he shouldn't lean too far over your body because you'll soon need room to reach down and touch your clitoris. Once he's inside you and you feel his penis stroke your G, have him thrust until you feel close to climax...then ask him to stop and remain very still. Let him watch as you softly tease your clitoris with your fingers. "Switch back and forth between touching your clitoris and stopping and having him thrust until you can't take it anymore and you have to do both moves at the same time. It'll lead to an incredibly explosive finale," says Cadell.

Now That You're a Pro

Once you've mastered this missionary move, test-drive a few slightly trickier — yet superpleasurable — positions. One option is a blended O during doggie-style. "When you're on all fours and he's thrusting from behind, his penis naturally finds your G-spot," says Buckley. Lean your upper body against the bed for support while reaching down and massaging your clitoris as he thrusts.

But doggie-style offers a bigger bonus: You can make him do all the work. His hand is free to rub your clitoris as he thrusts, putting him totally in charge of the two different types of stimulation.

If you crave more control over the G-spot stroking, try woman on top. "Face your guy, lower yourself onto his body, and lean forward. You'll feel his penis tickling your G-spot," says Cadell. "Because you're on top, you can thrust fast or slow, up and down, or in circles while you or he touches your clitoris."

Or by leaning far enough forward as you thrust, your clitoris will rub against his pelvis, creating completely hands-free stimulation that will culminate in blended-O nirvana.

Pure Romance by Christina

ChristinaTrejo@pureromance.com

www.prchristina.com

708.770.2657

Sex Positions for Fat Days and More

This has been one very long winter and one that has no doubt caused a few of us to put on a pound or two. Are you one of those desperately waiting for the warm sun to shine and the snow to melt so you can get out there and shed those extra pounds? I hear ya'! Problem is that in the meantime, it leaves some women feeling less than desirable. And, let's face it, "fat" days are just one of many scenarios that leave women second-guessing their inner sex goddess! Time to take control, ladies!! Read on and learn how to overcome and master those less than stellar moments…

Take care!!

  Christina

Sex Positions for Fat Days and More
by Tracey Cox

Just because you're tired, bloated or having a horrendous fat day (we've all been there), that doesn't mean it has to be a no-sex night! No matter the reason, it's easy to work around these common lust-busters - if you know the right moan-inducing moves. Just follow my intimate instructions for any of the problems below, and you'll be basking in the afterglow in no time.


You're having a fat day

What you want: To hide bulges, keep yourself semicovered - and ideally keep his hands far from your tummy and other no-go zones.

Intimate instructions: There are alternatives to keeping your T-shirt on and settling for (yawn) missionary. Rear-entry positions are the most flattering. Kneel facing away from him, lean down to rest your weight on your forearms (read: tummy hidden) and push your bottom tantalizingly high in the air in his direction. Not only does it give him a visual treat, the angle and position makes your waist look tiny and your thighs slim and taut - without you having to launch into that whiny "Don't look at me!" girly stuff. Put his hands on your hips to hold you steady while he thrusts, and you've also solved the wandering hands problem.

Sneaky tricks: If he wants the lights on, place glass-encased candles on the floor or simply plunk the bedside light down there. Lighting from below is far more flattering. Or play a game using a flashlight. Make the room as black as possible so there's complete darkness, then use the flashlight to highlight favorite parts of each other's body. It's complimentary, plus, because only one section at a time is being lit, it's less intrusive. Another good fat-day trick: Blindfold him and let it all hang out.

A new angle: If you do opt for missionary, make a pudgy upper midriff look sexier by stretching your arms up over your head and grabbing onto the bedposts or by placing them flat on the wall behind the bed. Better still, get him to pin you there. It's supersexy for him - he's in control and you're completely submissive. Plus, it works a treat to make tummies look flat and breasts appear perky!

You're exhausted

What you want: A zero-effort session where he won't notice if you nod off during the boring bits - plus speedy orgasms so you're spooning (and snoring) in no time.


Intimate instructions: Chances are you're already lying on your side, your back to his front (eyes determinedly shut despite his penis prodding you in the back), so this really is lazy-girl sex. Just lift your bottom to allow him to penetrate, and tighten your thighs for maximum friction while his hands reach around to stimulate your clitoris. To speed him up, make lots of satisfied groans and moans.


Sneaky tricks: If you're half asleep, your sexual system probably is too, so help it along by using lubricant. Save even more energy by ditching the usual in-out thrusting motion, and instead clench one buttock cheek at a time to rock you from side to side.

A new angle: If you can bear to get out of bed or are already snuggled up in front of the telly, have armchair sex instead. You sit on his lap, facing him, in a crouched position. Place your feet flat on the seat beside his thighs while he holds you by the waist and lifts you up and down. If you really want to be self-indulgent, tell him it's "your turn" (promise he can be completely spoiled next time): Settle yourself into that swivel chair in the study for a blissful oral sex session.

You've got your period

What you want: A position that doesn't bump or display a bloated, tender tummy - and doesn't involve washing the sheets afterward. Interestingly, while some women want nothing more than rest and an electric blanket, lots of women are turned on more during their period than any other time of the month. Here's another incentive to get over any squeamishness: An orgasm often alleviates cramps.

Intimate instructions: The shower is an obvious choice. Aside from the built-in cleanup, warm water running over your abdomen is soothing. True, it does look marvelously sexy to let water stream over those cheekbones (not to mention brave, since that's your makeup disappearing down the drain). But your best bet is to face away from the water, because you move your head more than you think during sex, and water shooting up your nose is not hot.

Try putting your hands on the shower wall for balance, and let him enter from behind as you stand on tiptoes and push your bottom up and outward. Alternatively, put your back against the shower wall and lift one leg as high as you can, resting your calf against the side of his shoulder. He holds your thigh and under your bottom to support you.

Sneaky tricks: By choosing a position where you're in charge of the pace, rhythm and depth of penetration - him behind or you on top - sensitive cervixes and sore middles can be accommodated. Another good option that saves the bedding: Do it in the kitchen. Those easy-to-clean surfaces are there for a reason!

Hop on the counter while he stands in front of you and penetrates. Then either wrap your legs around his waist or put them on chairs or stools for leverage and stability. Be warned, though: The angle is deep. It'll either hurt a little (just tilt your bottom back to keep the thrusting more shallow), or he'll hit your G-spot (which you probably won't complain about).

A new angle: If it seems like a great idea but the thrusting hurts, have him withdraw, and then rub the head of his penis against your clitoris until you orgasm. Finish him off with your hand or mouth.

You're taking ages to orgasm

What you want: An orgasm...now. As exquisite as it might feel hovering at that I-think-I'm-about-to-but-then-again-maybe-not stage, getting stuck there is no fun.

Intimate instructions: Because you're probably desensitized and in need of a jolt to push you over the edge, the trick is to switch stimulation. If you're into anal stimulation, a well-lubricated finger could do the trick. If that's not your cup of tea, try the old "fake it till you make it" method. Pretend you're going into the throes of orgasm (clench your bottom and thighs and moan), and you may trick your body by providing all the triggers it associates with actual orgasm.

Not working? Change position. Get him to lie on his back, legs stretched out and together, then climb on top so you have complete control. Put your knees on either side of his chest, let him penetrate and, leaning forward, move your hips so your clitoris is making small circles against his pubic bone. Still not working? Move yourself upward - if his penis isn't doing it for you, his tongue might!

Sneaky tricks: Make it a threesome - reach down, open your bedside drawer and get out your vibrator. If you're worried he'll feel left out, switch to a rear-entry position while one of you holds the toy firmly on the fleshy bit directly above your clitoris.


A new angle: If a clitoral orgasm won't work, perhaps a G-spot orgasm will. While the jury is still out on whether the G-spot even exists, the whole front vaginal wall is supersensitive. You on top or him from behind will give him a direct shot. If you suddenly think, Omigod, I have to pee, you're on target. Stick with it, and the sensation will pass, giving way to a G-spot orgasm. They feel totally different than clitoral ones, and I'm not sure I like them - but you might!

You've both had too much to drink

What you want: A way to make the most of the alcohol-induced total lack of inhibition without landing in jail (and help with a wonky erection would also be nice).

Intimate instructions: Make out all you like, but don't consummate anything in the elevator on the way up to your apartment - Mrs. Brown in 12B will be so not impressed. Instead, do it the second you're through the front door. Don't remove your clothes; just unzip and pull your panties to one side. Having sex while fully clothed feels lustily risqué (you just can't wait!). Let him slam you up against the hallway wall with your legs spread, then lift one and turn it sideways so he can penetrate. He puts his hand under your thigh for support; you put your arms around his neck for balance. Another way to be naughty but not too risky is to do it in front of a window with the lights off. You can see everyone else walking past and watching telly in other windows, so it feels like you're having sex in front of them - but they can't see you.

Sneaky tricks: If you can feel his erection depleting, get into a position where he's on top. Gravity will work in his favor, keeping all the blood in his penis rather than draining out of it. Don't panic if he's too limp for intercourse, and resist the urge to dive down and desperately perform the kiss of life. I'd avoid his penis entirely until he seems relaxed and just sneak a peek occasionally to see if anything's happening. If nothing is, tell him you don't need an erect penis to have a good time in bed; his tongue and fingers will do just fine, thank you.

A new angle: Some men go the opposite way and orgasm too quickly when they've had a few drinks - particularly if you're up to raunchier stuff than usual. If you're (rather optimistically) aiming for a simultaneous orgasm - rarer than you think - watch for the three surefire signs that he's about to explode: His penis swells one final time, his testicles rise tightly and pull up toward his body and the speed and depth of his thrusting increase.

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ChristinaTrejo@pureromance.com

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 708.770.2657

"Not Tonight, Honey... I Have Endometriosis!"

  One of my Pure Romance sisters posted this article for her MySpace friends and I wanted to do the same for my MySpace friends. The saying is true, when you sign up to become a Pure Romance consultant you've just signed on to become a sex therapist, too. I've been a consultant now for almost 8 years and I have women who have confided in me their most intimate sexual challenges and experiences. And, endometriosis is ranked right up there as one of the most confusing and most frustrating conditions a woman can experience. Read on and learn how to easier cope with endometriosis.

Christina

Endometriosis - Severe Pain with Sex
by Heather Guidone

Question

I have endometriosis and I have always had painful sex but the pain is so severe now that I have tears coming down my face. I get zero pleasure due to all of the pain. I feel like I am less of a woman because I can't give my husband what he wants. What are so me of the things I can do to help deal with this. My pain is deep in my abdomen and pelvis during sex.
~Kathryn

Answer

Dear Kathryn:
Thanks so much for writing.  I'm so sorry for what you've been enduring.

I actually had pulled together an article on this exact topic recently for the Endometriosis Research Center (www.endocenter.org) newsletter.  You would not believe how many others with the disease are similarly suffering; I promise you are not alone. Here is a copy of the article; I hope it helps.  Be sure to check out the resources listed therein for additional help as well.  Good luck and feel better, and remember, you are not alone. ~HCG

"Not Tonight, Honey...I Have Endometriosis!"

Let's be frank: Endometriosis combined with sex does not always bode well for the ultimate intimate experience.  Make no mistake -  Endometriosis is a disease that affects more than just the woman.  It affects her partner almost as much, and dealing with it as a couple is crucial.

Let's first address why some patients with Endometriosis experience dyspareunia (painful intercourse):  the lesions may obstruct, bind or invade tissues and organs; it can secrete inflammatory substances known as prostaglandins and histamines that irritate surrounding tissue; it can cause scarring which can restrict blood vessels; and it can make our pain receptors much more sensitive.

Cul-de-sac (the membranous wall between the rectum and the vagina) Endo is a well known culprit for causing painful intercourse, particularly upon deep penetration.  Take these physical aspects of the disease and combine them with treatments that kill our libido, throw our hormones into overdrive, and in some cases, make us gain weight so we can have a whole new set of body-concious issues to deal with, and you've got a recipe guaranteed to have "Not Tonight, Honey..." coming soon to a bedroom near you.

Further, let us not forget that infertility also factors into the mix for some.  When we're having sex because our dreams of fertility depend on it, we sometimes forget in the process that sex can and should also be an intimate sharing between partners...and frankly, fun.

That said, here are some coping tips that might help:

You Must Work Together With Your Partner

This is the cardinal rule.  Two-person problems are never resolved by one-person efforts.  Work together to find what seems best for you as a couple.  This includes having your partner join you at doctor visits and encouraging them to ask questions of their own.  Don't be afraid to ask for help - if the problem becomes bigger than both of you, seek the assistance of a qualified therapist who understands the disease.  Blame, doubt, fear, anger, sadness and even shame - of self and of each other - can appear in the bedroom when Endometriosis is a factor.  There is nothing wrong with getting professional guidance, and it is not the same as saying "it's in your head" or "you're imagining the pain."

Treat the Disease

Research proves that thorough eradication of Endometriosis from all affected areas can leave a patient symptom-free in many cases, and if desired, even improve fertility.  Finding a doctor who is skilled in the treatment of the disease can be your first step in feeling better overall.  See http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EndoDocs for help finding someone near you.

Timing is Everything

For example, a lot of women feel physically best before ovulation.  Determine what your "good" time is and plan accordingly.  Call it "scheduled spontaneity"!

Lubricate, Lubricate, Lubricate

Then lubricate some more.  GnRH therapy and other medications can cause vaginal dryness, as can certain surgeries.  There are numerous products available to compensate for this, such as KY jelly, Astroglide and Gyne-Moistrin.  Please note: if you are attempting to conceive, certain lubricants such as KY jelly can decrease sperm motility or destroy sperm altogether.  Similarly, if you are using a barrier form of birth control such as condoms, vaseline-based products can deteriorate the latex.  Ask your gynecologist for a few safe suggestions that might work for your situation.

Stop the Pain Before it Starts

If you need to, take your pain medication beforehand - but don't overdo it!

Remember that Intercourse Does not Necessarily Equal Intimacy

Intimacy can be established through numerous other means:  hugging, holding, kissing, etc.  You can heighten these experiences through candlelight, music, sharing a bath or whatever makes you feel good.  Best of all, these activities can be done even when you're not feeling great, so you can both still share intimacy.  There are also other activities that can be done in lieu of intercourse...use your imagination.

Communicate

Establish a signal with your partner that indicates when you feel ready for penetration.  Take it slow and most importantly, be gentle.  Talk about what works for you both - and what doesn't.  Find ways to work around the things that hurt [no pun intended].

It is Even Possible to Have Fun!

Experiment with positions that are enjoyable for you both.  Female dominant and side by side are very popular with Endo ladies, but find ones that work for you.  If penetration is still too painful, consider oral intimacy.

Endometriosis does not have to mean a death sentence to your relationship.  In fact, it can bring you closer together as a couple as you battle the disease together.  In the beginning, it may highlight a greater need for real honesty and communication between you and your partner, but establishing both of these things can make for a  happier partnership both in and out of the bedroom in the long run.  It's not an overnight process; learn what works for you both - but learn together.

Men should not feel left out of the Endometriosis support experience!  For more information, support, ideas and experience exchanges on all aspects of Endo, please visit this invaluable website.  It is the first organization formed for "Men Who Love Women With Endo."  See MENDO at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mendomen

See Also:

The Center for Endometriosis Care
http://www.centerforendo.com

The Endometriosis Research Center Online Support Community
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/erc

Inlet Medical, Inc.
http://www.dyspareunia.org/


"Painful Intercourse"
By D. Ashley Hill, MD
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/women/articles/dyspar_dah

When the Economy is Down, the Sex Goes Up!!

Is Recession Sex Even Better Than Makeup Sex?
Or Could Analytics, Marketing Be Behind Rising Sales of Personal Lubricant, 'Sexual-Enhancement Devices'?

By Jack Neff
Published: May 20, 2009

BATAVIA, Ohio(AdAge.com) -- The recession hasn't taken any edge off the sexual-accessories trade and may well have helped: Data show that such things as his-and-hers lubricants and mass-market sexual-enhancement devices are producing fireworks in supermarket and drug-store aisles.

First-quarter sales of personal lubricants soared 32% to$41.2 million, according to Information Resources Inc., led almost entirely by continued strength from last year's launch of Johnson & Johnson's K-Y Yours& Mine his-and-hers lubricants. That was even before ads from Mother, NewYork, launched last month behind K-Y Intense, the first major mass-market female-arousal gel, which has gotten major end-aisle displays in such surprising places as Walmart stores this spring.

Meanwhile, the small but suddenly booming"sexual-enhancement devices" category in food, drug and mass-market stores is growing even faster, albeit off a very small base, up 74% to $10.1million for the full year ended April 19, according to IRI, with Church &Dwight's Trojan and Durex products leading the way.

"When the economy goes down, sex goes up," said a J&J spokesman by way of explanation, but he and the brand team declined to elaborate on why their products seem to be booming when the economy isn't.

Jim Daniels, VP-marketing for Trojan at Church & Dwight,has some more-developed theories about why what he describes as the"sexual health" business is so healthy these days.

 For one thing, he said, he believes package-goods analytics and marketing are potent forces when applied to sex, something that, at least from a product standpoint, the industry really hadn't paid that much attention to until recent years.

Classic CPG research

"These are areas where there are unmet consumer needs," he said."So what you're seeing is that companies like Church & Dwight, Johnson& Johnson, are investing in classic CPG research, and bringing that research and skills to bear in the sexual-health category, which really hasn't had a lot of classic CPG activity. ... Once those insights are uncovered,package-goods companies move very quickly to meet those needs with products, as well as advertising to make people aware of them."

The other theory is that recession actually helps.

"These seem to be products people are actually gravitating toward in a recession," Mr. Daniels said. "I'm not a psychologist, so I don't know why that is. We are seeing people spending more time at home. We're seeing people's relationships being stressed. We're seeing people looking for means to reconnect with their partner and invest in relationships.In some cases, people may have more time on their hands if they're not working."

But the reality is that some of this was always a pretty big business, just not one conducted in grocery, drug or mass-merchandise stores,where it's still illegal to sell some of these products in seven states.

Church & Dwight estimates sexual devices are actually a$1 billion business in the U.S.,not the tiny $10 million measured by IRI in food, drug and mass stores. While the business overall is growing too, it's up by more like mid- to high single digits than the double digits IRI can see, Mr. Daniels said.

Most of those device sales today come online, through adult stores or through home parties organized by direct sellers such as Pure Romance, he said. Much of the business done to date by Trojan Vibrating Touch,a product launched last year that fits on the fingertip, has been through TV and online direct-response advertising.

Mainstream activity

Use of some of these products is remarkably mainstream, Mr. Daniels said.Church & Dwight is preparing to release a study conducted through Indiana University and Knowledge Networks of more than 3,000 U.S.adults showing that half have used a "vibrating product" at some point in their lives and a third have used one within the past year. Of those,Mr. Daniels said, 80% have used it with a partner.

All of this seems to bode well for future growth -- maybe for the U.S.population, too. Sales in Trojan's main business, condoms, aren't growing nearly as fast as in other areas of "sexual health." IRI data reported by Deutsche Bank show sales flat last year and down 2.1% in the first quarter, though Mr. Daniels said sales are up slightly in all channels. And IMS Health reports that contraceptive prescriptions last year were flat for the second year in a row.

Ladies!!

Even the experts know that the romance enhancement business is booming! Here in Illinois, Pure Romance is seeing a 25% increase in it's sales so far this year - and it's not even our busy season yet!

Pure Romance is still in it's infancy compared to other direct sales companies out there (i.e. Avon, Mary Kay, Pampered Chef, Stampin' Up,etc). Currently, we have ONLY 10,000 consultants nation-wide. Seems like a lot, doesn't it? By comparison, Mary Kay has 1,800,000 active consultants; Party-Lite has over 50,000; and there are over 60,000 with Pampered Chef! Your point of view just changed, didn't it? It's easy to see then how Pure Romance is still on the ground floor of it's growth and it's only going to get bigger!!

So, how about it? How satisfied are you with your life right now? Do you love your job? Wonderful!! Keep doing it then!! But, maybe you could use a few extra bucks each month - get ahead on some bills, put aside a little extra for a rainy day or a fabulous dream vacation, buy something that you have always wanted but were afraid to ask for.

Maybe you are just so-so about your job or maybe you down right hate it? But, it does pay the bills, doesn't it? You're comfortable in that thought, aren't you? Really? Is that what you really, really want out of this life? Wouldn't you rather be making a difference in people's lives? How about actually looking forward to going to work and actually having a wonderful time?

And, then, maybe you're already doing the stay-at-home thing. And, you're loving the fact that you get to be there for your children and watch them grow and learn. It's an awesome feeling, isn't it? Wish you had some time for yourself, though? Just you? Wish you had some regular adult conversation? No kids. Just adults talking adult stuff. Wouldn't that be something?

What I am trying to say here is that no matter where you are in your life right now, Pure Romance can be the answer you have been looking for all along. Career women, college students, SAHMs, WAHMs, white collar and blue collar, full-time and part-time, experienced business owners and brand new business owners (the list goes on and on). It doesn't matter your lot in life, Pure Romance has something for EVERYONE!

Do yourself a favor TODAY! Just take a moment to look into Pure Romance and see what we're about. Call or email me and let's talk! You have questions and I have your answers.

It's that simple. It's that easy!

Pure Romance by Christina
ChristinaTrejo@pureromance.com
www.PRChristina.com
(708) 770-2657

How Great Sex Can Make You Rich!

Got this one from a sister consultant - Thanks, Paula!!

Financial Advice from a Call Girl
How Great Sex Can Make You Rich

Originally Posted by S. Shugars at www.savingadvice.com
May 29, 2008

When people think about the best financial advice they have ever received, it usually comes from a family member, a close mentor or a financial guru. So it’s with a bit of embarrassment that I must admit that the best financial advice I ever received came from a call girl I slept with in my younger days. Even more surprising, it wasn’t intended to be financial advice,but what seemed to be almost an afterthought that she shouted back at me on the way out the door: “Don’t marry her if she isn’t great in bed.”

While her comment always stayed in the back of my mind, I never looked at it as financial advice until I realized where I am in my marriage and where many of my friends are. What I realize is that great sex has made me a happier person, saved our family a lot of money and kept me from falling into situations that have cost my other friends a lot of money.

Let me first state that I don’t see great sex as having anything to do with sexual prowess or stamina, but everything having to do with compatibility. Great sex isn’t an individual performance, but a combined performance between two partners that leaves you both exhilarated.

Having great sex with your partner is certainly not typical financial advice that you will hear in any of the personal finance magazines that you read, but that little gold nugget of advice has made me a lot more wealthy than most of my peers and advice that you should take to heart. Here are some reasons you should consider it a lot harder than you have:

Great sex reduces your entertainment costs: I can’t remember the last time I have seen a movie with my wife. This isn’t because either of us is cheap or don’t enjoy movies, but because there is never a question of what we’d rather choose to do. If you had the choice of a movie or a night of passionate love, which would you choose? Neither of us sees any reason to change this choice even after 15 years of marriage.

Great sex keeps you out of the malls: There is no need for retail therapy when you have a good sex life. You already know what makes you happy so there is no need to go searching for it in the latest gadget that will supposedly make you feel better. Nothing will fulfill you on a daily basis the way a great sex life will.

Great sex means you don’t eat out as much: Having a great sex life will mean you eat out a lot less than the average family. Much like with movies, if you have the choice of going out or a dinner in together with extra curricular activities, the dinner in almost always wins.

Great sex keeps you organized: When you are constantly looking forward to being with your partner, you don’t want other things to get in the way. You learn to get organized so that when you get home, there is nothing left over from work that needs to be done that could get in the way of the evening activities. Being the once unorganized slob and constant procrastinator that I used to be, I can tell you that having a compelling reason to be organized and get things finished early will ensure that you do. great sex is one of those compelling reasons.

Good sex makes you healthier: According to a study of 90,000American adults done by Dr. Ted Mcllvenna, from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, sexually active people take fewer sick leaves, are more gregarious and enjoy life more.

That means less doctor visits, lower insurance premiums and no need to pay for a gym membership.Except for the unexpected heart attack (that appears to have been more genetic that anything else according to my doctors),

I have been in great health during my marriage. I have taken exactly 3 days of sick leave in the 15 years I have been married and I find it hard to believe that many married men look forward to coming home as much as I do.

Great sex means that vacations are less expensive: When you and your partner have great sex together, the focus of a vacation changes dramatically. Most people choose vacations to be entertained, but when you have great sex, you choose vacations for the mood that they create. Time isn’t spent going from tourist attraction to tourist attraction, but spending time together enjoying the time and the atmosphere. Even when we pay extra to create a more romantic mood, the vacations are still far less than friends who vacation to be entertained.

Great sex means that you have no reason to cheat on your partner: A lot of people cheat on their partners for a lot of different reasons, but if the two of you have great sex together, it takes away the biggest reason for either of you to cheat on one another. Having affairs can bean expensive habit that can drain money from your overall wealth, especially when money is being hidden in order to maintain the affair. Great sex can keep you from ever making this costly mistake.

Great sex means you’ll stay married: That affair can become a lot more costly if it ends up resulting in divorce. If you want to keep your net worth secure, you don’t ever want to get divorced. I’ve seen first hand what it has done to a number of my friends financially, and it’s not a pretty sight.

There is a reason why people say that divorce is like taking all the money you have to the top of a tall building and then throwing handfuls of hundred dollar bills out of the window as fast as you can because that is essentially what happens. If you have great sex together, there is a lot less likelihood that either one of you will see divorce as something that you want or need.

What this all means is that our savings and net worth are a lot healthier than most of the friend that I’ve known over the years. It isn’t that we make more money, but that we have found a way to spend time together that costs little money and which we both enjoy immensely. Spending our time having great sex instead of spending money on other things means that we will retire with plenty of money without ever having to have struggled they way most people do.

So I pass along the best financial advice I have ever received from a call girl who didn’t even realize she was giving such important financial advice: “When you choose a partner, make sure that you have great sex together.”

Hey girls! Host a Pure Romance party, spice up your sex life for FREE and get WEALTHY!!!!!!!

Or, become a PR consultant and get wealthy from everyone else spicing up their sex life!